Black men and white women (social, experiences, neighbor, difference)

[Jefetio]

I think pale white skin can be absolutely gorgeous. Then again, I think dark black skin can be stunningly beautiful as well. I like diversity.

[lebanonmom]

Originally Posted by miu

White people tan to brown, not black. Their ideal colour is to tan to a golden brown colour, not pitch black. Frankly, I think that if white people actually tanned to pitch black in colour, they would be quite upset and freaked out. And light skinned blacks are often viewed by both non blacks and blacks as more attractive and desirable than the really dark skinned ones. Meanwhile a lot of black women spend lots of time and money on straightening their hair like non-black people.

BTW I am not disagreeing about some black people being very beautiful or handsome. There are beautiful people in all races, but also plain and ugly people of all skin colours too.

I agree about there being beautiful ppl in all colors and ugly ppl in all colors. I haven't seen anyone that was totally black, dark brown, but not totally black. Don't know why they call y'all "black"! The guy I been dating is a nice, dark brown, looks like a yummy chocolate candy bar!! And I really like them "chocolate kisses"!! YUMMY!!
About the black women straightening their hair. LOL some white women spend a lot of time and money getting curly hair. LOL.

[SouthernBoi]

I mostly see black guys with the fat white girls...maybe its just the area I live in

[lebanonmom]

I'm not fat, LOL!

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by SouthernBoi

I mostly see black guys with the fat white girls...maybe its just the area I live in

Yeah, I was going to say that also, and usually the chicks are fat and on the homely side.

I was trying to resist though.

[renee_cal]

Originally Posted by Chowhound

Yeah, I was going to say that also, and usually the chicks are fat and on the homely side.

I was trying to resist though.

I agree with you on that!

I dont have a problem with it though although I used to when I was younger and had the ideas of "dang most of the black men are in jail and now you wanna take the ones that are left?" Ive since grown up!

On the other hand before I got married I did find many white men attractive but unfortunately white men are less likely to date a black woman than a white woman dating a black man! Many white men have said this to me for various reasons which is sad.

The only thing I do get pissed off about is when a white woman wants to tell a black woman how to handle and keep a black man! Oh gosh dont let me get started!. love whoever you want to love!

[lebanonmom]

Maybe, just maybe, they aren't so judgemental and expecting women to look like a Barbie doll! Maybe, just maybe, they are looking at the heart, not the outside! Because they know how it is to be constantly judged by the outward appearance!

And, Renee, I am sure a black woman knows much better than any white woman how to keep a black man happy! I would not even consider trying to give advise there!

[SouthernBoi]

Originally Posted by lebanonmom

Maybe, just maybe, they aren't so judgemental and expecting women to look like a Barbie doll! Maybe, just maybe, they are looking at the heart, not the outside! Because they know how it is to be constantly judged by the outward appearance!

And, Renee, I am sure a black woman knows much better than any white woman how to keep a black man happy! I would not even consider trying to give advise there!

Which is why we see so many successful familes in the black community, with the majority of black women having a man and loving father to her kids by her side right?

I think that the majority of black men who date the fat white girls aren't man enough to handle a strong black woman, otherwise, why would they choose Rose O'Donnell over Nia Long?

[Mixed Black]

Originally Posted by lebanonmom

Maybe, just maybe, they aren't so judgemental and expecting women to look like a Barbie doll! Maybe, just maybe, they are looking at the heart, not the outside! Because they know how it is to be constantly judged by the outward appearance!

And, Renee, I am sure a black woman knows much better than any white woman how to keep a black man happy! I would not even consider trying to give advise there!

I think if a black woman would know how to take better care of a black man i think more black men would be with black women so that's not true at all. I think allot of black women push black men away by being so overly demanding and Controlling (and please don't use the same ass line of can't handle a strong black woman cause that is bull.

[lebanonmom]

Originally Posted by Mixed Black

I think if a black woman would know how to take better care of a black man i think more black men would be with black women so that's not true at all. I think allot of black women push black men away by being so overly demanding and Controlling (and please don't use the same ass line of can't handle a strong black woman cause that is bull.

Well, I have to agree with that. I know my BF was treated badly by his ex, overly demanding and berating him at all times. I think everyone, white, black, yellow, whatever, male and female both, just need to be loved! I know my man is waiting for the Capitol B with a big Itch to show up, but that isnt going to happen!! I cherish and adore him dearly and I will never treat him badly or berate him. His mother is a very strong woman but she treated her husband with love and respect as she does him also. A woman can be strong without being a jerk!! Love is not weakness! It takes a stronger woman to love and respect and honor your husband than it does to treat him badly. I think people treat others badly because of their own insecurities! I am a strong white woman, and I know how to treat my man. And I finally found one that appreciates that and is worthy!