Black men and white women

[SouthernBoi]

Originally Posted by Mixed Black

I think if a black woman would know how to take better care of a black man i think more black men would be with black women so that's not true at all. I think allot of black women push black men away by being so overly demanding and Controlling (and please don't use the same ass line of can't handle a strong black woman cause that is bull.

I said the strong black woman thing in regards to the black guys dating the fat white women, not just in general. I dated a black girl once and she wasnt any more demanding or controlling than any other woman I've dated...I thought that were all like that?

You maybe right though, and the one I dated was an exception...I have not dated many black girls so I don't really have a wide knowledge to pull from.

[char65]

Originally Posted by Mixed Black

I think if a black woman would know how to take better care of a black man i think more black men would be with black women so that's not true at all. I think allot of black women push black men away by being so overly demanding and Controlling (and please don't use the same ass line of can't handle a strong black woman cause that is bull.

I tried my best to not respond to this, because normally people who make these types of comments allow their minds to be set from a few bad experiences...but I couldn't let this one pass (sorry, Mixed Black. )

It's ridiculous to think black men dating outside of the race is solely caused by "overly-demanding, controlling" black women (and just as you are tired of the "strong, black woman" line, I'm tired of the "because I choose poorly, I'm going to assume all black women are just like the one I just dated" line.) To some degree, dating outside of your race is more prevalent now because we live in a time where people can date who they are attracted to with the worst scenario (in most cases) being no more than a funny look. And since we tend to date those who we socialize with the most (people at work, school, neighbors), as society becomes more diverse, so does out dating lives. And yes, I know there are some who date because they are under the impression that the men or women of the other race is so much better than theirs because...fill in the blank.

And my black husband (who is very well-taken care of by this strong, black woman ) asked that I add that in his experience dating both white and black women, he hasn't found a big difference between the two (i.e., some of manipulative, some are sweet, some are down-to-earth, some intelligent, some are b******, etc.) You cannot judge all black, white, or any other race of women or men by their color...unless you have dated every single one.

[lebanonmom]

For the most part, ppl date whomever they happen to be attracted to at the time. I dont think it has anything to do with color. I didnt set out to date anyone, white, black, yellow, anyone!! But when I met my BF, he was the sweetest, kindest man I had ever met. We talked for hours a few times, till I finally told him I wanted to date him. We been together every since. I wouldn't care if he was green! I would still love him just as much as I do now. I kinda think that one reason some white ppl have a problem with a white woman dating a black man or visa versa, is because they have a deep down, secret desire to get "out of their box" but don't dare. PPL talk no matter what another person does so it realy dont matter what they. I just let it go in one ear and out the other for the most part.

[robertpolyglot]

Wow, this one's kind of tough to analyze. Every black guy I went to college with that ultimately became a doctor, CPA or engineer married a non-black woman. These guys were the type that the black community would not welcome with open arms (too white...you know, they "deserted" their own). Yet the black women seem to look at them, and their wives, out of the corner of their eye with contempt.

In shopping centers or driving around, I see (lower) middle income black male/white female couples, though not that often. The white females in this case aren't that refined and I think they like the "defiance" or "sense of danger" aspect of it.

I knew one clean-scrubbed "sorority chick" (sorry) who married somewhat of a bad-boy minority guy. It was interesting that the only thing she could say about the dude was how much her father couldn't stand him. I never learned much about the guy other than this! In this case, it was definitely a "defiance" thing. The fact that she ended up with this guy kind of surprised me because, based on looks, she could have been fairly picky and you would have expected someone to have "kept her in bon-bons" somewhere in Ventura or Orange County.