Black men and white women (girlfriend, lesbian, how to, married)

[ronaldl79]

It's disheartening to see a world that's still obsessed with something that never existed. Unfortunately, telling people that race doesn't exist is like telling a kid there's no Santa.

I'm brown complected, attractive, self-employed, etc., but I'm certainly not the type of guy that women are clamoring over -- And guess what? That's OKAY. I've been deprogramming myself for years the lie that a woman is necessary to feel 'complete' in life.

[wclac]

Originally Posted by ronaldl79

It's disheartening to see a world that's still obsessed with something that never existed. Unfortunately, telling people that race doesn't exist is like telling a kid there's no Santa.

I'm brown complected, attractive, self-employed, etc., but I'm certainly not the type of guy that women are clamoring over -- And guess what? That's OKAY. I've been deprogramming myself for years the lie that a woman is necessary to feel 'complete' in life.

More power to ya. You're a good man.

[mom2justynsarah]

As a caucasion woman, I have known black men who vehemently and fiercely love and stick by their black women. I have also known others who feel the complete opposite about black women and only date caucasion women. I have yet to meet a caucasion male who has such polar opposite feelings regarding caucasion women.

Originally Posted by Bigbluelandrover

Mom2,

Black female here. There was a time when BM/WM relationships got under my skin. I was in college, in great shape, great attitude and like any young woman I wanted to date young, educated, black males that had similar interests. It was depressing to see the vast majority of them on my campus basically turn their backs on us as dating options. At the time it was something I took personally. HOWEVER, I found my MR great and I don't even notice the IR relationships. Some black men get weird though. My husband had a friend he used to play guitar and go to rock concerts with. (He is black & in a IR). Dude stopped calling my husband and I LIKE his spouse, she is a great person. I thought we would be able to hang out but HE has some kind of hatred for black women or he thinks I have a problem with his spouse (and I DONT). Sadly my husband was hurt by this.

[Ron.]

Now why on earth would it bother me? But too answer your questions.....


When you see an interracial couple, does it bother you?
Nope, it does not.

How does it make you feel?
No feelings. It's none of my concern.


Personally, I am the type that as long as you are happy with the person you are dating, then be with them.

Same here.

Originally Posted by mom2justynsarah

I know some black men that ONLY date white women (and vice versa). I can only speak for the woman's side because I have a very dear friend (caucasion) who will ONLY date BLACK men. She doesn't date white men period. She just finds black men to be incredibly sexy, funny and cool. She is not attracted or interested in white men.

Unfortunately, she is not welcome by many black women. In fact, they get royally pis** off at her. She is on some of the dating boards that are exclusive to black men. She has her picture there and gets a lot of negative email from black women to GET OUT!

When you see an interracial couple, does it bother you? How does it make you feel? Personally, I am the type that as long as you are happy with the person you are dating, then be with them.

[Ron.]

Great post!

Originally Posted by the one

i just dated what was in the local pool, well not the aquatic pool, but you get me. In most cases it was black or brown. I would never shut the door on anyone.

People who strictly date one race/ethnicity are pretty silly to me. And if a white women only dates black men, thats suspect. Almost like she dont like being what she is. Why limit yourself and your heart by not dating other people?

Man just let love happen. Give love a chance. Get lovin or get dying. Love peace and bacon grease.

[Ron.]

I know a few whites guys that will not date white women.....

I work with a white guy that says he cannot stand white women....

Originally Posted by mom2justynsarah

As a caucasion woman, I have known black men who vehemently and fiercely love and stick by their black women. I have also known others who feel the complete opposite about black women and only date caucasion women. I have yet to meet a caucasion male who has such polar opposite feelings regarding caucasion women.

[Ron.]

Come to Chicago, Northside. I have seen more white guys with black women than black guys with white women!

Originally Posted by LoveBoating

I'm white and I had a short relationship with a black gal ten or so years ago. I had never been "with" a black gal before, but she was nice. I didn't think our relationship would go to far b/c she had two teen kids, and I just wasn't into kids that much. Actually, I really never had an interest in black gals 'til I met her and she told me that she thought I was cute (WOW, that did it).
While in the Navy, I stayed with a Japanese girl for a couple of weeks, until I got Orders to "ship out". She was also nice, but don't remember much because it was only for a couple of weeks and it was back in the early 70's.
Does it bother me to see a white gal with a black guy? No, not really b/c it is so common today. Now, years ago, I did feel differently about it. Actually, I don't think white girls and black guys have as much of a problem with interracial dating/marriage as the families do.
One thing is for sure, you don't see many white guys with black girls!!!! Wonder why????

[Humboldt1]

Which is more taboo?

For a white woman to date a black man or a white man to date a black woman?

I would say it is more taboo for a white woman to date a black man.

Where I am from in southern Indiana, white women will not date black men, and generally only date white men, though some will date asian and hispanic men. I don't think it comes down to preference so much as they are worried their parents, particularly father, will not approve.

My father, a farmer, is one of the few who would accept it if my sister were to date a black man. He just wants us to be happy, regardless of the color of the person we end up marrying.

Most parents in rural, southern Indiana do not share this point of view and would not approve if their white daughters were to date black men.

[DaSkorpion]

I don't go on dating boards threatening other folks because they are dating other races - love has no color so take it as you wanna I am not going to argue with you over this. I did not come here to bash black women I have female friends who are black women and they agree and disagree with me each time this topic comes up - so please like I said take it how you wanna its just my $0.02.

I looked elsewhere for love because of personal experiences and what I have been through so FYI I am not trying to be a pot calling a kettle black I am a pot calling a pot black...!!

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Originally Posted by yayoi

So those black women who bash people are wrong, but somewhow it's ok for you do it. Hello pot, meet kettle.

[yayoi]

Originally Posted by DaSkorpion

I don't go on dating boards threatening other folks because they are dating other races - love has no color so take it as you wanna I am not going to argue with you over this. I did not come here to bash black women I have female friends who are black women and they agree and disagree with me each time this topic comes up - so please like I said take it how you wanna its just my $0.02.

I looked elsewhere for love because of personal experiences and what I have been through so FYI I am not trying to be a pot calling a kettle black I am a pot calling a pot black...!!

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Well I don't threaten people over their dating choices either. I don't really care actually. I just don't see why so many black men feel the need to disparage black women to justify their dating/marrying interracially. It makes you all look just as bitter as the jealous black women you despise. Just say you prefer non-black women.

BTW, 91.8% of black men in the US marry black women, so we can't be that bad.