Black men and white women (Chinese, husbands, sex, advice)

[DaSkorpion]

Wonder where these stats came from "91.8% of black men in the US marry black women" - how much of that percentage stay married for more than five years - all 91.8% of them? (LMAO)

FYI - I do not prefer non-black women first girlfriend in England was black and we were together for four years then got engaged but unfortunately she died in a car accident. Yes I have dated other black women as well but over here in the US it is a different scene when it comes to dating black women.

I see no excuse why I need to justify to you or anybody else who I choose to date in the first place - I prefer to date someone who has a head on her shoulders, knows what she wants in life and makes me happy -- I do not intend to be married to someone who sits home all day watching TV and talking on the phone whiles I go to work then have to come home to cook dinner and feed myself as well as her then have to pay all the bills in the house including the mortgage, car notes etc., by myself - that in my world is a no, no - sorry I was not brought up like that and am just not a sucker for that kind of relationship.

In my world love knows no color and at my age I am ready to settle down just don't have time for games...so after all like you stated "you black women can't be that bad" if you ain't that bad stop the threats, dirty looks and comments when you see a brotha with somebody else he is happy with who happens not to look any bit like you.

Next topic please..!!!

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Originally Posted by yayoi

Well I don't threaten people over their dating choices either. I don't really care actually. I just don't see why so many black men feel the need to disparage black women to justify their dating/marrying interracially. It makes you all look just as bitter as the jealous black women you despise. Just say you prefer non-black women.

BTW, 91.8% of black men in the US marry black women, so we can't be that bad.

[wclac]

Originally Posted by Humboldt1

Which is more taboo?

For a white woman to date a black man or a white man to date a black woman?

I would say it is more taboo for a white woman to date a black man.

Where I am from in southern Indiana, white women will not date black men, and generally only date white men, though some will date asian and hispanic men. I don't think it comes down to preference so much as they are worried their parents, particularly father, will not approve.

My father, a farmer, is one of the few who would accept it if my sister were to date a black man. He just wants us to be happy, regardless of the color of the person we end up marrying.

Most parents in rural, southern Indiana do not share this point of view and would not approve if their white daughters were to date black men.

Well, if you go to Los Angeles, California, you'll see that a lot of black men are dating interracially. I've seen a lot with white women. I've got cousins who are married to white women. People barely blink an eye, from what I've seen. Which is why I'm a Los Angeles fan.

[Jefetio]

These threads are always so fun. I've already posted my opinion before, but I had to respond to this one.

Originally Posted by ChicagoRon

Come to Chicago, Northside. I have seen more white guys with black women than black guys with white women!

maybe because there are a lot of VERY beautiful black women in chicago. When I went there I was blown away by it, and I only saw a small handful of beautiful white women when I was there.

you lucky bastard

[bobbir]

Originally Posted by DaSkorpion

Born in England and currently living in the US - I can say I have dated a whole lot of flavors and what stops me from dating my kind (black women) is somehow complex. Most of the black women I dated in England compared to the ones here in the US are totally different. I just got tired of the date your kind trend because the black women here in the US I had the chance to date were all the give me, give me type they cared less if they had any form of education or worked an 8-4 or 9-5 job all they wanted was for you to take care of them.

I believe love is not a one way street and if two people are in love one person is not meant to be a sucker.

My advice to the black women out there who keep bashing other races about stealing all the good black men is - stop sleeping with every one on your block, instead of having 6 or more different kids with different men learn to cook and clean, get an education, stop the I am a lesbian BS after you are done popping out like 10 kids saying men ain't S***, learn how to take good care of your man and in turn he will take good care of you and treat you like the queen or princess you are.

And lastly stop coming into relationships with your empty hands learn to bring something to the table - if you have decided not to work because you think its your man's right to take care of you then am sorry you need to go back to living with you mom and dad because your man is not your father.

Life is not all about how good you look when dressed or how tight your azz looks we can get sex anywhere if we want to so if you think a relationship is all about your milkshake then please I beg you to think it over again....from a black man who now dates out of his race..!!!


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Im a white guy who works for a company that has alot of black woman. All are college educated are work extremly hard. All had good moral and family values. None fit the stereotype that you post about. My suggestion is that you date more black women from the suburbs or middle class areas. Instead of some of the one's who grow up in the inner city.

[bobbir]

Originally Posted by mom2justynsarah

I know some black men that ONLY date white women (and vice versa). I can only speak for the woman's side because I have a very dear friend (caucasion) who will ONLY date BLACK men. She doesn't date white men period. She just finds black men to be incredibly sexy, funny and cool. She is not attracted or interested in white men.

Unfortunately, she is not welcome by many black women. In fact, they get royally pis** off at her. She is on some of the dating boards that are exclusive to black men. She has her picture there and gets a lot of negative email from black women to GET OUT!

When you see an interracial couple, does it bother you? How does it make you feel? Personally, I am the type that as long as you are happy with the person you are dating, then be with them.

Where i live at you can't go thirty minutes. Without seeing a black man/white woman couple. Or a black male/hispanic woman couple. Especially if the women are puerto rican and dominican.

[bobbir]

Originally Posted by Humboldt1

I was talking with my black neighbors and they were saying "When you go black, you can't never come back" to which I responded "When you go white, its aiight." They about soiled themselves.

Most of my female friends are hispanic. None of my Mexicans or Central or South American friends would even think of dating a black man. They are attracted to them physically but think they have most likely slept with too many women. Some of my Puerto Rican female friends would and have dated black men, which makes sense as many of them have African ancestors.

Let's face it, people are more likely to date people who look like themselves. I know there are exceptions but people generally date within their race.

Didn't the same africans that went into jamaica, puerto rico, and other parts of the carribean. Go to south america, and central america. The same slave ships that stopped in puerto rico, and the united states. Went into brazil, mexico, columbia, panama, and other countries in south america. I think certain parts of latin america like to play up their white spanish ancestors. More than they're black ancestors. Mexico at one point had more blacks than white spainards. There are several black hispanics still living in panama, columbia, mexico, and definitely brazil. I think obama will change alot of that image in latin america. It will be good for the blacks that are in latin america.

[darling876]

Originally Posted by LLLL98

We have these issues from time to time, it bothers my man much more than it bothers me, I really couldn't give a rats a$$. I've had people say things, blatently stare, shake their heads, a lot of people still even in this day have some kind of issue with it. My man gets a little more heated, in fact, there have been times when he actually won't go places because he thinks there might be problems with a few knuckleheads (mainly concerts and such). It's a shame, but there are always struggles in life, you just have to try to stay above all the nonesense.

I have to say that I agree, I am WF and my DH is BM, we have been married over 4 years now and going strong. It is sad to see that still today people (and this is from whites and blacks) stare and/or give us funny looks. Sometimes I try to tell myself it is all in my or DH's mind, but it is not.
I am from an island where we really don't see skin color and the majority of couples are inter racial, so I have never had to worry about conceptions and notions of other people. It is a sad day when we think about going somewhere and we think twice because we might not be welcomed everywhere. and this is just plain and simple truth

[yayoi]

Originally Posted by DaSkorpion

Wonder where these stats came from "91.8% of black men in the US marry black women" - how much of that percentage stay married for more than five years - all 91.8% of them? (LMAO)

FYI - I do not prefer non-black women first girlfriend in England was black and we were together for four years then got engaged but unfortunately she died in a car accident. Yes I have dated other black women as well but over here in the US it is a different scene when it comes to dating black women.

I see no excuse why I need to justify to you or anybody else who I choose to date in the first place - I prefer to date someone who has a head on her shoulders, knows what she wants in life and makes me happy -- I do not intend to be married to someone who sits home all day watching TV and talking on the phone whiles I go to work then have to come home to cook dinner and feed myself as well as her then have to pay all the bills in the house including the mortgage, car notes etc., by myself - that in my world is a no, no - sorry I was not brought up like that and am just not a sucker for that kind of relationship.

In my world love knows no color and at my age I am ready to settle down just don't have time for games...so after all like you stated "you black women can't be that bad" if you ain't that bad stop the threats, dirty looks and comments when you see a brotha with somebody else he is happy with who happens not to look any bit like you.

Next topic please..!!!

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Ok, good luck to you.

[spotlight114]

Originally Posted by yayoi

Ok, good luck to you.

exactly, whats the point in arguing with him...one less knucklehead for black women to deal with....and for the record it appears that black women are coming across as the only ones who are angry to see interracial relationship when there seems to be just as many whites who dont approve...my husbands family said that he was just too lazy to go out and get himself a white girl. Please stop grouping us all in as angry black women..most of us dont care

[Huckleberry3911948]

sounds exciting. lots a people dating. but not me. if i were would i be on CDF? my big thrill today was some green beans and chili peppers.