Originally Posted by Donna7
You've been having affairs with married men for 1/2 of your 52 years on this earth? This means that you've been skanking around for 26 years and you're supposed to be congratulated and given some sort of Lady of the Skank medal? You have to be kidding me!
Listen here, my mom and dad got a divorce in 1968 because my Dad was having an affair with some bimbo; the bimbo turned out to be a friend of my mom's. The affair caused a divorce, leaving me and my brother (who was just a baby) to leave Europe and come here and grow up with a single mother who had to work very hard to raise us by herself. My mom and dad did start corresponding with each other 16 years later after he got a divorce and after the birth of my first son.
Unfortunately, they are both gone now and it would have been nice to grow up with a mom and a dad. Not having that has left certain deep scars in by my brother and I (40 and 46, respectively). No one has a perfect childhood. Our childhood AND adulthood would have been a lot better had the affair and subsequent divorce not happened. It forever changed the direction and course of our lives - every one of ours, from my dad, to my mom, to my brother, to myself. I am fortunate that I have been in a good marriage for 25+ years; my brother has not fared so well. He has had behavioral problems most of his life; most of them stemming from low self-esteem and never having a good role model to draw from.
I could give a rat's behind about how Denise or whatever her name feels like, if she's depressed, whatever. She can go drop dead for all I care. You must not care either as who knows who many lives you've ruined because you have no self-esteem of your own. I can't imagine that anyone who's been involved with married men for 26 years (out of 52) has any self-respect or self-esteem for one's self.
P.S. - Re-reading your post I'm not understanding if you're a simple skank or if you're some sort of skank counselor as you said that you "counseled" people. If it's the former, you're the one that needs counseling. Just because you've entrenched yourself with the dregs of society doesn't earn you a medal as far as I'm concerned.
And God, no!!!! Being a "friend" with a woman like that? One who has affairs with a married man? Judging her? Hello no! My problem with being a friend with a woman like that has nothing to do with Christianity or any other religion. It's more like "Once a skank, always a skank" motto. I don't remember reading any apologies from you, for ruining other people's lives.
Yes, they may have problems in their marriage. Many people do. So what do you do? "Counsel" them by having affairs with the spouse? Oh, what a good-doer you are. Like I said before, you need a medal or something. You should be commended for providing such a valuable service.
What a messed up world we live in when the cheaters and their co-horts want the sympathy, the "understanding." Waah, waah.
Donna, Donna O Donna.......such anger.
Wow....... and I was going to stay out of this......but with your childish..... Immature response, misquoting me from the very beginning, which I might add, said nothing of my having affairs....... especially with men. No, I was a counselor.
You just wanted to sling your hatred........
What I really think is with your being 46 years old...... you need to let it go. Your bitterness that you take out on others for your father's misdeeds helps no one.......
Please feel free to call me a "simple skank" or a "skank counselor" if it makes you feel better....... I'm sure I've been called worse.
You have INTENTIONALLY misinterpeted what I said......
How quick you are to judge me......... I actually said "Leaving any type of Christianity out of it......."
Yet you bring it up as some type of defense for your acid remarks.
You make personal attacks on me............ for what?
I never condoned what she was doing........... she may not have all of her ducks in a row, concerning relationships. She may be having problems like your brother is having????????????
But of course, I place no blame on your brother.....nor did you.....instead it was your father's fault.
The simple fact is "We each are responsible for our own actions".
And sometimes they are hard to face and sometimes even harder to rectify..........
Such harsh words,
"P.S. - Re-reading your post I'm not understanding if you're a simple skank or if you're some sort of skank counselor as you said that you "counseled" people. If it's the former, you're the one that needs counseling. Just because you've entrenched yourself with the dregs of society doesn't earn you a medal as far as I'm concerned. "
I'm just not sure what we should do with these as you called them "dregs of society" ?
I can tell you for sure....... I've never run across a "dreg" with such hatred and bitterness as you!
Now I agree with you........ your lives would have been better had ther been no divorce!
I've always said "There are no winners in a divorce and Children get hurt the worst!"
Now, let me address your statement "Once a skank, always a skank" motto.
I don't remember reading any angry and bitter words from you, for your father ruining people's lives."
Yet, in speaking of your father who according to your reasoning, shouldn't you address him as "always a skank?".... but no, you chose a very telling choice of words. She was a "bimbo" but he was your father and actually began to speak with your mother after 16 years. I applaud that!
So............. you words are not correct....... "Once a skank, always a skank".
And Donna.......never did you read in my post that I had sympathy for her........empathy, yes.
My advice was for her to walk away........ what is wrong with that?
But if you had correctly quoted me, then of course you wouldn't be able to take your childish, immature anger out on Denise and myself.
And, isn't a little shameless to blame your brother's problems on the divorce, yet you turned out with a perfectly good 25 year marriage.
And a relationship with your father (Skank? I'm not sure I would ever use such harsh words toward him) changed so that you actually said, "Unfortunately, they are both gone now"
You mean you actually give a rat's ass about someone who in you words lives fully up to what you classify as a "Skank". Your words not mine.
So..... let me see if I've got you right.
I'm a skank counselor.......
Denise is a skank that can never be anything else but a skank........
And your father............... hmmmmmmm ?
While I will not lie about enjoying your silly banter....... you have some deep seated issues.
You my friend are like "Burger King" You want it "Your way".
You can have, not sympathy, but understanding for your father who was just as guilty.....no, even more guilty, because he actually divorced your mother.........
And why did you not spit on your father's grave when he died? Since you didn't give a rat's behind about Denise's feelings and "She can drop dead for all I care."
Oh, Donna......... did you cry when your father died?
Did you feel sad?
OR WAS YOU JUST THINKING......... YOU SKANK.......I'M GLAD YOUR DEAD!
No, I think I and all who read this will understand the double standard that you use when the crap is in you own family's backyard!
I just don't see the need for so much anger and animosity that you and other's had.
I never used the word "sympathy", but the word "compassion"
Let me give the definitions to you:
Your word Sympathy: Feeling corresponding to that which another feels; the quality of being affected by the affection of another, with feelings correspondent in kind, if not in degree; fellow-feeling.
My word Empathy: Identification with and understanding of another's situation, feelings, and motives.
What a great difference in choice of words.........of course because of your anger and animosity you choose to misquote me.
If your going to respond to my stuff......... at least quote me correctly.
And please let me know how you feel about your father........... or do you still, or did you ever place him in Denise's shoes?
Of course he was in the wrong to a much, much greater degree....... he divorced your mother.
Denise was torn and trying to do the right thing by reaching out AND NO ONE CONDONED IT, NO, NOT ONE!
Just you "HATERS" wrote your drivel about her.