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Old 09-12-2010, 08:34 AM
 
Location: right here
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He will never leave his wife and kids-you are my dear a fool-how can you have such low regard for yourself to get involved with a married man? Go to therapy and find some respect for yourself....
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:35 AM
 
Location: maryland
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You are both pathetic, I don't see how the married guy does that and you are just as bad to do it. Why can't anybody respect marriage it is just sick.

You never can say what the relationship is like either....sometimes it's sexless but you stay together for the children's well being.
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Texas
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i am giving you reps just for that. Give me as it is indeed.
I wish it weren't true for your sake, but this is an old story replayed time and time again.

This is why it's better for married people to have affairs with other married people...then the expectations aren't there.
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:37 AM
 
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He will never leave his wife and kids-you are my dear a fool-how can you have such low regard for yourself to get involved with a married man? Go to therapy and find some respect for yourself....
I know right. this is one situation i never thought I will find myself in.

I think I have daddy issues. Grew up an orphan. This guy started out as a good friend, a mentor..2 years...we were close nothing happened although it was obvious there were chemistry between us...and then this.

maybe you are right. i need theraphy
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:38 AM
 
Location: Texas
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You are both pathetic, I don't see how the married guy does that and you are just as bad to do it. Why can't anybody respect marriage it is just sick.
It's not her job to respect his marriage. That's HIS job.
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:38 AM
 
Location: maryland
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I wish it weren't true for your sake, but this is an old story replayed time and time again.

This is why it's better for married people to have affairs with other married people...then the expectations aren't there.
I think most of the time it's the thrill of a man finding a younger woman which drives this. She hangs on his every word and has fire in her eyes,which is something his wife might not have anymore. In short its a ego boost for them really.
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:42 AM
 
Location: Canada
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How does it typically end?

He's almost twice my age. Been married for 17years, of which the first 3 years it was just the both of them together.

he has two kids. one 14 and the other one 5.

i have tried ending it many times but he keeps promising me the stars, that he will try to make us happen. he has given himself a deadline. 14th nov this year - it will mark 1 year we have been together

that said i know its almost impossible. he's too responsible to leave them.

i dont know why i am here. maybe i would like to hear your experiences? have u cheated on your spouse or been the external party? how did it work out?

He is not going to leave his wife for you. Trust me. He is promising you the stars because he is using you for sex. End it.
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:42 AM
 
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I think most of the time it's the thrill of a man finding a younger woman which drives this. She hangs on his every word and has fire in her eyes,which is something his wife might not have anymore. In short its a ego boost for them really.
it's funny you say that. There are times when I ask him why is he with me...and his answer amongst other things is "because u make me feel good.never thought someone like you blablabla would be with someone like me"

an ego boost.....gosh is that all i am to him? not really ideal is it
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:43 AM
 
Location: Broken Promise Land
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i wish it was just sex it would have been so much easier. but he's starting to create needs within me that i never knew existed. and i have tried leaving him because i dont think he should leave his wife.

but maybe a part of me wants to see what he has up his sleeves on nov 14. will he honour his words and do something about us? or was he just stalling for time.....

and god...the things he say, the amount of time he spends with me on a daily basis. i actually believe him sometimes
Are you serious!?

Think about what you just wrote. There are a lot of reasons to justify having an affair. Some I even understand. But, if you the other woman doesn't think he should leave his wife then it's my guess that he has no reason to be having an affair and his wife is a good woman who probably loves him deeply.

He knows this too and that's why he isn't going to leave in November or ever. He isn't going to leave unless he gets caught and even then, he will only leave if SHE makes him.

Listen to this song OP:

YouTube - Air 1 - Sanctus Real "Lead Me" LIVE
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Old 09-12-2010, 08:44 AM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Are you serious!?
Yep, she's in toxic love
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