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If you are complete opposites ..wouldnt you get bored doing something you DONT want to do in the first place? You would eventually be drawn apart from lack of intrest in each others intrest...
On being the same you can always be there together but not so much that you are driving each other crazy... Then if you are both optomistic there's always the thing of *trying something new* as long as you are doing it together instead on seperate sides of the city...
some ppl like ppl that are like them.....some ppl like ppl who contrast them......it depends on the person as far as what type of partner they preffer.....
My wife and I are complete opposites in a lot of ways. I'm right-brained, she's left brained. She is a CPA and I'm a creative writer. Outside of both being largish, her family and my family are total, polar opposites of one another. Our political views are divergent, as are our tastes in books, music, movies, etc.
What's more, different interests mean you can have your worldview broadened. My wife danced ballet for years. I always thought I hated ballet. Now, while I'm not a devotee, I can certainly appreciate it. She's the same way about jazz and foreign movies.
Yet, at the same time, she and I have identical views on the things that matter: What it means to be married, how to raise children, and the virtues of frequent headboard-grabbing, coyote-howling, rattle-the-windows sex in as many places as possible.
And, most importantly of all, we know how to voice our disagreements. We have raised our voices to one another precisely once in 17 years, and that was over the stupid vacuum cleaner attachment being broke. The other times, one person has voiced what's bugging him/her in a cool, detached voice, the other respectfully disagrees or apologizes, and we try to reach consensus. The result? We like hanging out with one another.
some ppl like ppl that are like them.....some ppl like ppl who contrast them......it depends on the person as far as what type of partner they preffer.....
My marriage was similar - lots of likes, lots of opposites.
The problem was that the balance was SO fine that the slightest push in one direction upset it, that push being provided by inevitable change. Like a wheel that is unbalanced, the wobble continues to grow until the entire thing breaks.
And no - there were no mechanics around at the time.
i think its not complete opposites that last long together because you would always butt heads on everything.
my bro always goes out with the same girls and cant figure out why it never works out. i tell him they are all cookie cutter. they even look and act alike in my eyes. and they are very much like him. same attitude about life, and trendy and metro etc.
i always tell him he needs to look for something different.
the truth is most people end up in life long relationships with people they themselves would never have "chosen". no one i know is married to what they believed was their "type"
when you really fall in love, you and everyone around you will realize the other person is not who they ever expected you to be with.
My husband and I are complete opposites but it really works for us and we are going on 32 years. There are places where we completely gel and there are places we don't but respect each other enough for each to have their own things......We do get along great...............Hope that helps.
I think it really depends on what you have in common and what you don't. For instance, you don't want to date someone who has the same negative qualities that you have. I have a relative who tends to be too serious, a little too defensive and not very social. His wife is the same way and I think they end up reinforcing those qualities in each other. I know I can be an introvert and being with an extrovert helps bring me out more. I think that's a big reason why opposites attract. We see someone exhibiting the qualities we wish we had. At the same time, you don't want to be with someone who's a bad influence or someone you can't keep up with. I had that problem when I dated someone who was high-energy, which I'm not. She was always restless and could never stay in one place for very long. Made getting to know her a lot harder too.
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