Do opposites attract? (dating, married, man, love)

[onethatsbroken]

I have always wonder if opposites attract?

I dont think so personaly but my friends tell me that I need to find someone diffrent from myself......

I have dated someone who is opposite, but it turned out that relationship did not last no time at all... However with people that I had more in common with it lasted the longest?

So I am confused.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by onethatsbroken

I have dated someone who is opposite, but it turned out that relationship did not last no time at all... However with people that I had more in common with it lasted the longest?

That often seems to be the "rule" - opposites attract but likes last.

Maybe we're looking for completion or a compliment to what we are initially, but after the first rush wears off and we feel complete we need someone in common with us to survive.

Just a theory.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

That often seems to be the "rule" - opposites attract but likes last.

Maybe we're looking for completion or a compliment to what we are initially, but after the first rush wears off and we feel complete we need someone in common with us to survive.

Just a theory.

Second this theory...

[fresnochick]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

That often seems to be the "rule" - opposites attract but likes last.

Maybe we're looking for completion or a compliment to what we are initially, but after the first rush wears off and we feel complete we need someone in common with us to survive.

Just a theory.

YEAP, I believe it to be a reality and not a theory.

[mlammons]

My ex and I were sooooooo much alike. Basically, he is me with a penis. It was great short term but a disaster in the long run. Now, my man and I balance each other. While I am impulsive and extroverted, he is introverted and really thinks things through. I am a spender and he is very thrifty. We are good at compromise and tend to meet in the middle in regard to these things.

What we share is a sense of humor, intelligence (relative, of course), love of books, learning, travel, water, good food and drink, an outdoor lifestyle, doing thing to our house, the list goes on...

I would say we compliment each other nicely.

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by mlammons

I would say we compliment each other nicely.

That IS a nice balance - just enough differences to make things interesting and fiery, but enough in common to flow.

Congrats!

[andreaspercheron]

I agree wholeheartedly. I do think opposites attract but I to do not think they last.
I wasted my time dating my "opposite" who was just always trying to convince me that because we were opposite we were going to be together forever. Ha! I'm engaged now to someone very similar to me. The difference between us though is that I'm more vocal about sticking up for myself or for others and he's more reserved. Everything else though we have very similar likes and dislikes. I think the whole opposites attract theory was pure attraction and not meant for relationships.

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by andreaspercheron

I think the whole opposites attract theory was pure attraction and not meant for relationships.

True. Those of us who no longer care for marriages or even relationships per se can keep indulging ourselves, though.

[lola8822]

I have to disagree......my husband and I are very opposite and we've been together for 10 years married for 5.......we work so well together and we are truly best friends........although we are still young (27) I know we will last through anything.......I don't think it has anything to do with opposites or likenesses.....I think it has to deal with personal prefferences and individuality......there's the generalizing thing again.....rrrrrr......

[LilyLaLa]

I agree that the important things should be LIKE (for instance, do you both want kids or not, or how you manage money).

But some opposites can be good for you....if you're a couch potato for instance, someone who drags you out to ride your bike or dares you to a mini-marathon is certainly good for you.

My husband and I are a lot alike, except that I'm very quick at things--very quick to decide something especially, even a very big decision like buying a house or moving cross-country or starting a business LOL. He's more level-headed and slow to think about something. Alone, I'd be a catastrophe, and he'd never do anything...but together, we're pretty good.