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We just moved in September and I hate it here. The kids do also. We had to pay for the move, the government did not pay. I feel cheated b/c I was pressured to do this by my dh and inlaws. I didn't want to move - we owned our house outright in Texas and although financially things were tough, they weren't impossible. We had to sell our house to pay for the move!
Now things are damn near impossible. We're struggling soooo hard here just to survive. I was 13 hours away from getting my BA in History/Psych. Now I have to retake the last 2 years. No help from said inlaws.
It's so hard to make friends up here. People are polite, but not really interested in being friends. That's hard for me - I've always had plenty of friends.
I'm having an EXTREMELY hard time w/ all the anger I have inside for dh for insisting on this move and his parents for pushing and pushing for it. There are days I don't even want to talk to him b/c I just remember where we were vs now. It was NOT an advantageous move for us, and I told him that when he was approached for the job.
I'm sorry you're feeling bad because of the move. It can't be easy moving when you don't want to.
Does your old university have on line classes you could take? What about transfer back credits? Many universities allow so many credits transferred in. Talk to yoru advisor and see what can be done.
I think for the sake of your marriage, you need to let it go. Your home is with your husband and children, is it not?
I have a friend (well ex-friend now because she was so negative all the time) that moved here because it was what her husband wanted, to be near his family after he retired from the military. She hated/hates everything about it, their house, the state, EVERYTHING. He got tired of her constant complaining and moved out on her. Now she is alone in a state she hates, in a house she hates.
That being said, I think you need to give a new place a good year before you really feel comfortable and at home. I've done 2 major moves and am ready for a 3rd. It's an adventure each time and as long as I have my husband and kids and our health, it's all good.
Good luck to you!
Ooooooh, are you in Manasses, Virginia?? Yep, I would hate it too. I hope things get better for you soon. As another poster said, try a year and maybe you will find your niche.
Find the good in the move. holding on to such bitterness will only poison you. The moce is done, now make it work. There may be some amazing gifts in store but you must clean the closet out before it can hold new clothes.
Whenever I feel angry, I write about it and release it. I try to ask myself questions about why I'm feeling angry sometimes my anger is not what I think it is. Then I write about some more, releasing it onto paper. Then I try to find something that I am greatful for. I am greatful for my health, I am greatful for a body that works, I am greatful for air to breath, it elevates the spirits for me. You can be happy anywhere you are, we always have choices. Take care.
I agree with the others. It is what it is now, so try to make the best of it.
If you continue to see only the negative, then there is no room for positive.
Its tough, but don`t ruin your marriage over it. Give it some time.
Thanks you guys. I can't do school over the net b/c I'd have to pay out of state prices.
It did help to say this to SOMEONE. I haven't told him any of this, he has no clue (that I know of).
I have to say, this has become my home away from home. when I get really upset, I come here and it calms me. I love these boards.
Couldn't you take the courses you need at your current location and transfer them to your old school?
While I understand feeling homesick and sad, start exploring your new location and find the positives. Bloom where you're planted!
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