Marriage issues (wife, girlfriend, woman, lover)

[natasha23]

Hi gals,
Today I need your expertise advice for my girlfriend, Julie.My friend Julie and her husband had a major argument recently. A brief history,they have been married for the last 4 years,like every average couple, they have had happy times and also day to day issues to over come.
One of these being the recent relationship with his 4 year old daughter and daughter's mother , who was a former girlfriend ,from a previous relationship.

Julie called me crying on the telephone,saying , that," her husband told her, that his daughter's mother said",that she cannot understand how he can have sex with his wife because she is always serious". Now Julie stated, that,her husband's ex-girlfriend has only seen her on one occasion.How can see say such a thing??and what makes matters worse her husband did not see that as a major issue at the time it was said,because he believe his wife should know what she is worth

This brings me to you guys.Julie has been asking my advice in this situation, that I hope I handled correctly.
Do you think that Julie was in the right to be angry by that statement made???Or like her husband stated,she should know what she is worth???

Do you think that her husband should have handled the situation differently????

Do you think there is need to worry about the type of relationship and conversations that Julie's husband is having with his daughter's mother????

Is Julie over reacting about the entire situation????

Should Julie's husband have entertained such a remark about his wife from another woman????

Thanking you so much .
CONCERNED FRIEND

[GHJohn]

You friend is being melodramatic and blowing this issue out of proportion. So her husbands ex thinks she is serious. Well what does she care what her husbands ex thinks about her? We can't go thru life worrying about what people think of us. If we do we're bound to spend our life worrying and fretting over it like your friend.

[natasha23]

thanks for your advice

[yankeegirl313]

It happens all the time. The ex smouts off something unnecessary, that is none of her business to begin with. Just tell your friend to blow it off. She`s probably just trying to get a reaction. Don`t let her get it.

[paramour]

I am uncertain why they would be discussing the husband's sex life to begin with, completely inappropriate in my opinion, sounds like the ex- is simply attempting to drive a wedge between the two current partners (and sounds like they are allowing her to succeed). BUT, I also am uncertain why the husband would even dare repeat this to his wife. How the hell did he expect her to react? So, yeah, I think that he should have handled it differently in that (a) he should have told his ex- to take a hike, and (b) he should not have repeated the interaction with his wife. Your friend should forget about it. If the ex- does not know her, then why does she care what someone else thinks about her?

[SanAntoQT]

WTF was he thinking telling her what the ex said? He should've kept the comment to himself. OTOH, she should blow it off. The ex sounds like a b*tch and she was probably trying to antagonize her, knowing that the husband would run home and tell your friend what she had said. Honestly, he sounds like a moron.

[sms0511]

Julie should blow it off and not give in to her hubby's EX's comment. Exes that are THAT bitter, to the point of having to mouth off bad things about the new GF, are not worth spending time on anything. A smart woman who is over her EX should move on w/ her life, and not dwell on thinking negatively on the new GF of the EX. So, the EX of Julie's BF is definitely not a smart cookie.

[mari4him]

Huh, okay confused here. Either this is a duplicate post/thread or something odd here. I know I posted as well as several others on this thread and hmmm posts are not here. C-D starting to mess with my head I think. I'ma go hunting see if its just a duplicate thread.

[mari4him]

Okay, it is a duplicate thread. Knew I couldn't be losing my mind here. Nope, not me.

Natasha, why start another thread on exactly the same topic/issue? Your other one had about 2 pages of posts going.

[MonaLisaVito]

is this lover454?