Moving too fast .... (dating, wives, movies, soulmates)

[ajs5mz2]

Originally Posted by lola8822

good luck!

Poetry, does not a real life, make!

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by ajs5mz2

She tells me that this is how true love happens, I tell her this is how you end up a body on the side of the road, or that your son is being abused, or both.

While I'd be one of the first to agree with you, I also wonder - is this her first real relationship? That would explain her infatuation with this Bard...

[ajs5mz2]

Originally Posted by sean98125

This is a guy who is willing to pull up the stakes and move away from everything in his life after knowing her for three weeks. He's leaving his job, his home, his friends... that isn't the kind of guy you want a relationship with.

You want the guy who really has to think about leaving his life behind. He should have the kind of job that he feels attached to, the kinds of friends that he can't imagine not having around, and the kind of life that is full and interesting to him but that she can make even better.

A loser that is willing to drop everything based on three weeks is not someone you need being around your kid.

Agreed!

Its nice when you find someone that you "click" with, but you don't drop everything and run to them on such short notice.

If it is real, then why not wait. Maybe they are believing their own poetry - the star cross lovers thing, and trying to make come true.

[raisun]

hmmm...from my (all to personal experience) definitely not much anyone can tell her...its what she thinks she wants. Its a funny thing, one of my best friends met a guy (albeit local) on the internet, they chatted for a couple weeks, they dated for a week or two, a couple weeks later he moved in, now they've been married going on a year. She's happy so thats really what counts.

But personally, I did something similar with a woman I met online, thought she was the one and it was going to work. Boy was I wrong...but apparently all my friends tried to tell me that when she came to visit me and to this day I cant remember hearing any of that...I only heard what I wanted to hear :-/

Good luck indeed!

[ajs5mz2]

Originally Posted by SifuPhil

While I'd be one of the first to agree with you, I also wonder - is this her first real relationship? That would explain her infatuation with this Bard...

Nope, not her first relationship, been engaged a number of times, married once, now divorced.

And she is hot, no shortage of guys trying to hit on her, so its not like she is sitting home with nothing to do.

[ajs5mz2]

Originally Posted by raisun

hmmm...from my (all to personal experience) definitely not much anyone can tell her...its what she thinks she wants. Its a funny thing, one of my best friends met a guy (albeit local) on the internet, they chatted for a couple weeks, they dated for a week or two, a couple weeks later he moved in, now they've been married going on a year. She's happy so thats really what counts.

But personally, I did something similar with a woman I met online, thought she was the one and it was going to work. Boy was I wrong...but apparently all my friends tried to tell me that when she came to visit me and to this day I cant remember hearing any of that...I only heard what I wanted to hear :-/

Good luck indeed!

While it is true that without risk there are no rewards, I think we should still try to minimize our risk.

[lola8822]

Originally Posted by ajs5mz2

Poetry, does not a real life, make!

sURE.....Why not

[raisun]

Originally Posted by ajs5mz2

While it is true that without risk there are no rewards, I think we should still try to minimize our risk.

I do agree that if there is a way to get her to see how fast she's moving, that would be a very positive step.

How far away does he live? Is there any chance of him coming to visit a few more times before the big move? Even if the visit is set up to be an opportunity for him to look at some job opportunities? That way they can spend some more time together and even some time with her friends before making the commitment?

[SifuPhil]

Originally Posted by ajs5mz2

Nope, not her first relationship, been engaged a number of times, married once, now divorced.

And she is hot, no shortage of guys trying to hit on her, so its not like she is sitting home with nothing to do.

Wow - OK - that kills THAT theory...

The only other thing I can think of is similar to what you mentioned about the star-crossed lovers - I don't want to sound egotistical but I've known the power of poetry and prose over certain personalities.

It's incredibly strong. And the willingness to believe it's all true is just as strong. If it turns out that yes, it's all true, then you have a union made in Paradise. But if it doesn't...that's when things get ugly.

[laysayfair]

Can you get her to do some kind of "investigation" on him. If anything that comes back doesn't match what he told her it might wake her up.