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Old 08-21-2008, 06:53 AM
 
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Question Numerous sex partners before marriage might be a good thing

Ever heard the story that if you dont have sex with a few people before getting maried you will wonder what it feels like and it might lead to cheating, I can see some truth in this and it bugs me seeing that my girl that I want to get engaged with turns out to be my first and only.
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Old 08-21-2008, 07:35 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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Then again if you havent been with various and sundry partners you wont know what you might be missing if the spouse isnt all that in the sack.
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Old 08-21-2008, 07:38 AM
 
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Nothing to compare it to. I dont think I would be bothered if my first had become my husband. It only has to happen once.
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Old 08-21-2008, 07:45 AM
 
Location: Blackwater Park
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I somewhat agree. I don't think I could have been with a girl long term if I didn't know she had at least some experience, just to get the curiosity out. Some girls may be different, but I think the majority of them would always wonder what it's like with other guys. I may not even lead to infidelity, but they would always be curious. I'm not saying she has to run through the entire football team either, but I think it's good that she at least has a few fairly long term boyfriends. That way they can at least break her of bad habits before you're stuck with her.
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Old 08-21-2008, 07:48 AM
 
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Ever heard the story that if you dont have sex with a few people before getting maried you will wonder what it feels like and it might lead to cheating, I can see some truth in this and it bugs me seeing that my girl that I want to get engaged with turns out to be my first and only.
Oh dear. As it happens I tend to agree that there is some sense to playing the field a little before settling down. BUT if you've found someone you want to spend your life with, why throw it away just to experience some other nookie which may not be as good as the nookie you already have??

Having said that, if you feel this way, maybe she's not the one for you after all. I think if you really wanted to get engaged you wouldn't be wondering about this. In 10 years you would start wondering, but not yet.
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Old 08-21-2008, 08:09 AM
 
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There's a saying. Men take the number of sex partners they've had and multiply by three. Women take the number of sex partners they've had and divide by three.

Of course, if my wife had said she had fifty, I don't think I would have cared.
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Old 08-21-2008, 08:12 AM
 
Location: Mountain View, CA
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You are a young guy - its normal for the idea of monogamy to scare you. But, what you need to ask yourself, is if you had slept with a bunch of chicks.. would it change your current feelings? I'm assuming you deeply love your gf if engagement is in the discussion.. so would the fact some girl you banged 3 years ago was slightly better in bed really cause you not to marry your gf? If the answer is yes, then by all means, break it off, you aren't ready to be married! But if, as I suspect, the answer is "of course not" then you just have some normal male curiosity.

Plus, there's no reason sex can't get better over time anyway!
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Old 08-21-2008, 08:36 AM
 
Location: Cumberland Co., TN
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I'm not saying she has to run through the entire football team either, but I think it's good that she at least has a few fairly long term boyfriends. That way they can at least break her of bad habits before you're stuck with her.

LOL.
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Old 08-21-2008, 08:38 AM
 
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Personally, I think the key is not having numerous sex partners after marriage.
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Old 08-21-2008, 10:39 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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I think that you should try before you buy. By that I don't mean sleep with everyone who tickles your fancy but if you are in a serious relationship and it comes down to getting intimate, you should. I don't think it's a guarantee though that if you sleep with people before you get married that you won't cheat once married.
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