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What he says goes and he makes the final decisions.
Yeah, this would not work in our relationship. We negotiate things and come to mutually acceptable solutions. The day he says " What I say goes", is the day he finds me rolling around on the floor laughing at him. I'm sure he would do the same if I said such a thing.
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Originally Posted by captaincatfish
Reason? The woman is smart as a whip, beautiful in body and spirit, and has gained a lot of life experience along the way...I am NOT GOOD at financial matters--point blank! She has 2 college degrees,
I might get blown up for this next remark, but I am not known for biting my cyber-tongue, so here goes...when I say 'strong woman', I mean the type of woman who leads with her brain and her heart, NOT with her mouth! I am getting so fed up with many of today's superficial, materialistic, loud-mouthed women who, having been done wrong by some male jackass deep in their history, now make a concerted effort to show the world what a tough broad they are, bashing every male from Sponge Bob to Fred Flintstone...can we men BE jackasses?
Brilliant post. Seems like you and your wife have a great relationship. Congratulations!
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Originally Posted by Who?Me?!
PARTNERSHIP.
It's a partnership...or should be. Not a Daddy/Momma is the boss domination.
An adult should not need a boss in their personal relationships.
And it shows that not everyone has the same idea of what "wears the pants " means.
Some here seem to think that a man "wearing the pants" is fine but a woman as "boss" has to be a militant harpee......only two choices for women?????? A barking "sargeant" or a wimp who can't make her own decisions???
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Yeah, I agree with this too. I have no need of a King in my castle - we are joint rulers. Neither of us takes a secondary status to the other. I would love to see what would happen if I even tried taking over, and I wouldn't put up with that from my DH either. My DH is very strong willed and used to being the boss at work. Occassionally he can come across a little heavy handed, but if there's one thing GUARANTEED not to work with me, it's that. We are both stubborn, so sometimes reaching a solution on something can take a little time, but if it's really important to him, and less so to me, then I give in. If something is really important to me, but less so to him, he gives in. It's a good arrangement.
Having said that, if women are happy to let a guy make the decisions in their relationships, then that's fine. I can't imagine doing it, I grew up around the kind of women who would NEVER do it, but each to their own - whatever rocks your boat.
Yeah, this would not work in our relationship. We negotiate things and come to mutually acceptable solutions. The day he says " What I say goes", is the day he finds me rolling around on the floor laughing at him. I'm sure he would do the same if I said such a thing.
Brilliant post. Seems like you and your wife have a great relationship. Congratulations!
Yeah, I agree with this too. I have no need of a King in my castle - we are joint rulers. Neither of us takes a secondary status to the other. I would love to see what would happen if I even tried taking over, and I wouldn't put up with that from my DH either. My DH is very strong willed and used to being the boss at work. Occassionally he can come across a little heavy handed, but if there's one thing GUARANTEED not to work with me, it's that. We are both stubborn, so sometimes reaching a solution on something can take a little time, but if it's really important to him, and less so to me, then I give in. If something is really important to me, but less so to him, he gives in. It's a good arrangement.
Having said that, if women are happy to let a guy make the decisions in their relationships, then that's fine. I can't imagine doing it, I grew up around the kind of women who would NEVER do it, but each to their own - whatever rocks your boat.
Bolding mine.
Thanks for a great post! My husband, before he retired, was the 'boss" at work...sometimes he needs a little "reminder" that I don't work for him.
Here's some common sense! """so sometimes reaching a solution on something can take a little time, but if it's really important to him, and less so to me, then I give in. If something is really important to me, but less so to him, he gives in. It's a good arrangement."""
Yup, dictatorships aren't good for anyone....not countries, not families...
My husband and I are 50/50...not everyday, though. Somedays he pulls more of the weight and some days I do, but it always seems to even out in the long run.
On that note, one of my friends, upon getting married, told me marriage has to be an equal relationship. 51% for the man and 49% for the woman. That's equal.
I've seen a lot of dominant butch straight married women in my days.....its scccccary.
I had to hunt around to find your post because I didn't have time yesterday.
Agreed...100%...there's a whole squadron of middle-aged + women who get real boxy, in both body type and facial structure, that just steamroll their husbands. I would definitely describe them as "butch," but nevertheless heterosexual. The kids have been raised and I don't see why these dudes don't just say "adios." These broads have nothing much going for them in terms of looks, personality, intelligence....just the nagging and the steamroller. They are usually trashy to the point that they would represent a demerit instead of an asset to take them to a company party or have them entertain for your work, for example.
I steer clear of women like that...they have nothing to offer besides depressing me. I also find that I don't get along with men that are married to women like this...in their chinless (a couple of them aptly have weak chins) namby-pambiness, they have little self confidence and often turn out to be passive-aggressive.
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