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Okay so I've been off the dating scene for like 9 years now, since 17, so I was a bit curious as to how it's changed.......I found this article and it seems like just in the past 9 years it's changed.....I mean common......don't tell your date about your crazy family? So I guess If I do ever date again I shouldn't tell them about being related to Sammy Gravano????
7 Relationship Topics That Turn Men Off On A First Date (http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Relationship-Topics-That-Turn-Men-Off-On-A-First-Date&id=1096636 - broken link)
Okay so I've been off the dating scene for like 9 years now, since 17, so I was a bit curious as to how it's changed.......I found this article and it seems like just in the past 9 years it's changed.....I mean common......don't tell your date about your crazy family? So I guess If I do ever date again I shouldn't tell them about being related to Sammy Gravano????
7 Relationship Topics That Turn Men Off On A First Date (http://ezinearticles.com/?7-Relationship-Topics-That-Turn-Men-Off-On-A-First-Date&id=1096636 - broken link)
Interesting list, but I can't agree with it entirely. I eat, breathe, and drink politics...I couldn't imagine not talking politics at some point during a first date. Indeed, if my date had no interest in politics -- or belonged to the "other" party -- I would no have interest in pursuing things further.
lola, I started dating after 20 years. Talk about a shock!! Met a nice lady online. We talked off and on for a while. She lived about 45 miles away. I drove down for a date in the morning, and we had a nice day. She invited me to go to a friend's place to play cards, plus she wouldn't mind a designated driver. (I don't drink) Going back to her place (lived with her mother) at 2 AM, the closer we got to her house, the quieter she got. I was about to ask what was wrong and she turned and asked if something was wrong with her? HUH?????? Not a thang!!!! Then why haven't you tried something!!! All that time I thought I was in trouble for something I had done, but I was in trouble for something I HADN'T done!!! She wouldn't go out with me again!
All that time I thought I was in trouble for something I had done, but I was in trouble for something I HADN'T done!!! She wouldn't go out with me again!
You know of course that it doesn't matter what we do - we're wrong!
I hate articles such as this. They have a tendency to operate from this sense of desperation. How to catch and keep a man. This type of article is about 50 years out of date.
I think politics and religion tell a lot about a potential. Talking about how and why past relationships ended tell a lot about a potential. Discussing someone's possible criminal history is smart. If the other person is willing to discuss his crazy family let him. It is important to see how this other persons views his relationships with his family. Finally, discuss the things that are important to you and if the other person is flat out not interested then its not necessary for a second date. Is one to spend the rest of life keeping interests in the background? Is this about how to pretend you are not who you are for a second date?
My last date blew because I thought the guy was too handsy.
Of course, it's been preached to us forever to not talk about exes on a first date. So, there I am on a first date with a guy I met online about 7 months ago. I was still a bit hurt from breaking up with a BF a few months earlier and I only went on this date to get some of my girl friends to quit bugging me about mourning over the BF.
Anyway, what my new date wanted to talk about was my broken engagement from 18 months earlier. He knew I'd never been married before and wanted to know why. Why haven't you ever married at 39 was just about the first question out of his mouth. I gave him the short version of how I just didn't get out and meet anyone in my 20s and then in my 30s I lived overseas for a long time and traveled with my job so I didn't meet anyone special until 36 and get engaged until 38. Unfortunately, things don't work out as we plan, and the engagement ended.
End of story? Oh no! This guy wanted to know specifics as to why the engagement ended, and how long prior to that relationship had it been since I'd been in a serious relationship. He just kept grilling me, digging for some fatal flaw that would keep me single and never married at 39. I was tempted to ask him, so, you've been divorced for 10 years? What? couldn't you hold a marriage together, you just abandoned your three kids? Sheesh, if I wouldn't jump to conclusions that he was a bad husband (and I didn't), he shouldn't jump to conclusions just because I'd never been anyone's wife. Needless to say, we didn't go out again.
I went back to dealing with the breakup with the BF and put off dating again for quite a while.
End of story? Oh no! This guy wanted to know specifics as to why the engagement ended, and how long prior to that relationship had it been since I'd been in a serious relationship. He just kept grilling me, digging for some fatal flaw that would keep me single and never married at 39. I was tempted to ask him, so, you've been divorced for 10 years? What? couldn't you hold a marriage together, you just abandoned your three kids? Sheesh, if I wouldn't jump to conclusions that he was a bad husband (and I didn't), he shouldn't jump to conclusions just because I'd never been anyone's wife. Needless to say, we didn't go out again.
I hate that. I hate the feeling that I am being psychoanalyzed by someone who wants to locate and exploit a weakness. That whole need to feel superior thing.
don't keep scratching yourself down there on your first date....with your dinner fork.
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