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I'm shy and awkward and not good looking. I've never asked a girl out. Girls don't like me. I make decent money for my age 50k/year and have my own house on the ocean (hand me down) but girls don't care. GIrls just want guys who are fun and goodlooking. I'm a great person, but it's not enough if you are shy and average looking. I can't help but think I wouldn't be in this situation if I were gay. It's just not fair. I want love. I think about it everyday and it hurts.
One word: confidence. One of the ugliest guys I know has a beautiful wife and children. He's got a positive attitude and exudes confidence (not arrogance).
You're projecting your negative image of yourself. Confidence and genuine compassion and kindness make all of the difference in the world.
I wish you the best of luck, but you need to truly believe that the answer to your problems are within your power to solve.
Do not rely on money and material possessions to attract women.
If you cannot get a date, buy one like once every few weeks until you do meet women, and do not worry they will come,
you got to put yourself out there, also looks are not that important, just got to get some mojo.
One word: confidence. One of the ugliest guys I know has a beautiful wife and children. He's got a positive attitude and exudes confidence (not arrogance).
You're projecting your negative image of yourself. Confidence and genuine compassion and kindness make all of the difference in the world.
I agree with this...
Also consider the dating pool you engage in.... change it. Sometimes people place themselves in a situation or place (bar, party, club etc) that is out of their element. A timid person may feel a bit overwhelmed at a night club for example. Some people do best meeting others in clubs; sports, hobbies, reading, other interests. The fact that it is a club means there is already an existing common interest... it is easier for a shy person to start with that common interest to break the ice and start a conversation.
I'm shy and awkward and not good looking. I've never asked a girl out. Girls don't like me. I make decent money for my age 50k/year and have my own house on the ocean (hand me down) but girls don't care. GIrls just want guys who are fun and goodlooking. I'm a great person, but it's not enough if you are shy and average looking.
I'm 22, almost 23, and I'm also average-looking. I've been dating a very attractive girl for the past 8 months, and I still can't figure out why she's into me. Every day that passes, I feel like I dodged a bullet another day (the bullet where she tells me she wants to end the relationship). I'll be lucky if I see my first anniversary with her. I'm not counting on that. In that case, it will probably be a long time, if ever, before I date again.
I'm 22, almost 23, and I'm also average-looking. I've been dating a very attractive girl for the past 8 months, and I still can't figure out why she's into me. Every day that passes, I feel like I dodged a bullet another day (the bullet where she tells me she wants to end the relationship). I'll be lucky if I see my first anniversary with her. I'm not counting on that. In that case, it will probably be a long time, if ever, before I date again.
Don't worry, you'll probably end up self-sabotaging your own relationship before that happens due to your insecurities.
Back to the main topic at hand, phenibutgod, have you given online dating a try? I think it fits us shy/introverts to a tee.
The secret to all this I believe is knowing yourself better. Being comfortable with yourself means that others are comfortable with you too. Reflection or meditation can help you be less frustrated, less angry, more content with the world in which you live. Try affirmations both morning and evening.
There are many free resources on the internet to help us become more aware of who we are and find out where we are going with our life. If no-one is attracted into your life, then you need to start the process by looking at yourself and going inside by whichever method appeals to you.
I realise this sounds all woo, but if what you have tried in the past does not work.... then you need to try something else.
Back to the main topic at hand, phenibutgod, have you given online dating a try? I think it fits us shy/introverts to a tee.
Yes and no. On any given dating app or website, men FAR outnumber women. In other words, there could be 5 men competing for the attention of each woman. That assumes all things being equal. Of course, that won't be the case, because certain people are more attractive/desirable than others.
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