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Ok if you ask a question on here is it because you've stewed on it a while? I'm assuming yes. So you agreed to something and are having after thoughts. Then when you get pounced on you don't like it. The best time to speak of opposition in a relationship is always now otherwise you lead your S.O. to believe its ok or you agree with them, thats not their fault.
Sometimes I have stewed on something, sometimes a thought hits me and I feel like asking about it, or I will ask when I know something is coming up and I might need advice before I jump into the situation...it is all situational for me!
Stewing makes me more mad and then I approach my spouse wrongly. I suppose not just stewing is required, but time. I often wish I waited longer before speaking about my opposition. I mean like 2 or 3 days versus a few hours.
Stewing makes me more mad and then I approach my spouse wrongly. I suppose not just stewing is required, but time. I often wish I waited longer before speaking about my opposition. I mean like 2 or 3 days versus a few hours.
I have responded in a bad way also, sometimes time is the best answer for me too. I feel no need to defend myself when I'm wrong and I say so.
I usually respond badly if I give a kneejerk reaction. I'm alot more reasonable if I think on it a bit.
I've made statements many times that I wish I could take back.
This is exactly what I was going to say.......I think there is a time and place for everything. Most "in the moment" responses as far as conflict go are mostly based off of adrenaline and emotion.....not a great combo. Plus I think there is a time and place for everything....you wouldn't want to blurt out "Your sooo off base you Idiot!" infront of youngin's or bosses or the elderly . Don't wait too long but give it a bit of thought
When I was younger, I was the person to just agree and go along. Now that I'm older, I don't promise anything until I've thought about it. Plus, I've learned to say "No" and not make it personal.
Honestly, I find I get myself into bad situations when I respond impulsivley.....It happens....of course, but when I do this I tend to over-react (I blame it on being Italian ) so I consiously try to slow down......
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. Plus I think there is a time and place for everything....you wouldn't want to blurt out "Your sooo off base you Idiot!" infront of youngin's or bosses or the elderly 
. Don't wait too long but give it a bit of thought
) so I consiously try to slow down......
