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Old 09-16-2008, 11:53 PM
 
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Default Marriage? Why bother? It is a waste of time.

In this day and age marriage is a waste of time. Everyone cheats on everyone and the only people who are getting married is for the money. All the other guys tell me the same thing - don't get married it is a waste of time. "If the girl really loves you then she won't care if you are married or not." Makes perfect sense to me.

I won't bother getting married. Single and ready to mingle forever!

 
Old 09-16-2008, 11:56 PM
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I have been thinking about this one a lot lately. I think marriage used to be a good idea. My parents and grandparents have been married a long time, and though they have had their little fights, they basically respect each other and get along. Now it seems, as you say, everyone is cheating or thinking of it, there is disrespect everywhere, and people using people for money. I still want to get married ideally but I don't see it happening for me. It is simply not likely to end up being healthy for someone youngish. I think most people are selfish now and that is the whole problem.
 
Old 09-17-2008, 04:39 AM
 
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do you remember the show "earth 2"? it was only on for 1 season, but it stuck with me for many reasons--one of them being Antonio Sabato jr. --but i digress.
one of the things on the show that struck me was the "marriage contracts"
there was a couple that was at the end of their marriage contract and debating on wether or not they would renew it. you see they then (in the future) had contracts lasting only 5 years. if after the 5, you decded you were willing to renew--you could--for another 5. if you didnt want to renew, you were just able to let it expire and go on with your life--no harm, no foul.
maybe we are just now starting to "evolve" on this marriage thing.
 
Old 09-17-2008, 05:03 AM
 
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In this day and age marriage is a waste of time. Everyone cheats on everyone and the only people who are getting married is for the money. All the other guys tell me the same thing - don't get married it is a waste of time. "If the girl really loves you then she won't care if you are married or not." Makes perfect sense to me.

I won't bother getting married. Single and ready to mingle forever!
It sounds like you are confusing the issues here. A girl really loves you and is willing to stay with you despite not being married (which works for some but definitely not all women), is a whole different ball game from someone who just wants to 'stay single and mingle'.

Nothing much wrong with either approach as long as you are upfront about it, but a committed relationship is a committed relationship whether there is a marriage or not.
 
Old 09-17-2008, 05:48 AM
 
Location: Oxford, OH
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My parents were married 62 years and had a wonderful marriage. Just because many don't work out is not a reason not to be committed to someone. It is a time to get up in front of God and your friends and family and pledge yourself to another person. And really, especailly for the women, it legally protects her if the husband leaves. Just imagine as a women with no rights and off the guy goes and leaves you high and dry with little children. There are reasons for all of this...
 
Old 09-17-2008, 05:52 AM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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The happily married couple I know are the ones that keep me from getting completely jaded.

Last edited by Raggy dee Ann; 09-17-2008 at 06:12 AM..
 
Old 09-17-2008, 06:08 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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As a woman, I guess I've been thinking about this recently too. My fiance and I have been together for three years, been engaged a year in June and honestly? He never wanted to get married. His parents divorced when he was in college and I think the experience left a bad taste in his mouth. After he met me though, I think he began to think differently and realized that marriage was still important to me but then I'm second guessing myself, am I asking too much of him? I see us being together for good but I don't want him doing something that later he will regret. So, I guess my point being, I think some marriages today aren't taken seriously and therefore people just get divorced and think it's not a big deal. Marriage certainly isn't the covenant it once used to be and to me that's sad.
I still believe in marriage though and unfortunately (or fortunately depending on how you look at it), I think society today still doesn't completely accept "life partners" unless they are married and have that certificate saying so.
I mean, if marriage is going down the tubes as bad as everyone is saying, why then haven't the insurance companies converted their beliefs that hey, if you want to be with your partner for life but don't want to be married legally, we will still accept the addition to your insurance. Why can't standards be put in place say for example, a medical insurance company such as BCBS says ok, if you don't want to be married but you want to add your SO to your policy, we require that you live as man and wife for a set amount of time and share a certain amount of responsibility but see, you don't see this happening and that's why I say that society still does not accept all common law marriage situations.
Just my rambling morning thoughts...
 
Old 09-17-2008, 06:09 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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My parents were married 62 years and had a wonderful marriage. Just because many don't work out is not a reason not to be committed to someone. It is a time to get up in front of God and your friends and family and pledge yourself to another person. And really, especailly for the women, it legally protects her if the husband leaves. Just imagine as a women with no rights and off the guy goes and leaves you high and dry with little children. There are reasons for all of this...
I agree with this thought too.
 
Old 09-17-2008, 06:13 AM
 
Location: Cheshire, UK
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In this day and age marriage is a waste of time. Everyone cheats on everyone and the only people who are getting married is for the money. All the other guys tell me the same thing - don't get married it is a waste of time. "If the girl really loves you then she won't care if you are married or not." Makes perfect sense to me.

I won't bother getting married. Single and ready to mingle forever!
Psych 101 says that you see in others what you are in yourself. You are so not a catch. Marriage is what you make of it. If you are a cheat and a louse, you will have a bad marriage.

Your friends are correct. You shouldnt get married. At least not until you grow up.
 
Old 09-17-2008, 06:15 AM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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My parents were married 62 years and had a wonderful marriage. Just because many don't work out is not a reason not to be committed to someone. It is a time to get up in front of God and your friends and family and pledge yourself to another person. And really, especailly for the women, it legally protects her if the husband leaves. Just imagine as a women with no rights and off the guy goes and leaves you high and dry with little children. There are reasons for all of this...

Remember not everyone has the need to get up infront of god and friends and some of us are independent enough (especially if thre are no kids) to not need support from a man.
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