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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I see this is an old thread but I have very definite feelings on this topic. I think when you fall out of love so easily, it wasn't true love to begin with. Infatuation, lust...something along those lines, but not true love.
I've thought I was in love before but when we broke up and I got over them so fast is what told me it wasn't true love. With that notion, I've only been in love one time in my life--although I've loved many people. I believe with everything in me that once you truly fall in love, you will never fall out. It's unconditional and indescribable. That's why there are so many love songs about true love (vs just love). No one can totally capture it or what it does to you but when you get hit with it, you won't wonder if it's real any more than you'd wonder if that Mac truck that just hit you was real.
According to the responses to the current rich guy thread/poll going around.....this magically happens whenever a guy gets laid off or whenever his business goes belly up.
Get bored, not going anywhere, you learn you can't deal with his/her flaws, more of a burden to keep it going, things that you thought were cute -aren't anymore
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by Raena77
Get bored, not going anywhere, you learn you can't deal with his/her flaws, more of a burden to keep it going, things that you thought were cute -aren't anymore
The word 'love' is so misused, abused, over-used and misunderstood. If it's not unconditional, it's not true love. This is why love, in the true sense of the word, is so rare.
The word 'love' is so misused, abused, over-used and misunderstood. If it's not unconditional, it's not true love. This is why love, in the true sense of the word, is so rare.
Anyone who's told you that they won't settle for any less than "this feeling of total awe"...could easily be looking for-ever.....When I met my "right person"I was certainly NOT overcome with emotions...and the "butterfly feeling" was just the anticipation of bedding with said partner....I feel that people confuse falling in love with feeling strongly attracted to...but falling and being in love is something that happens when your partner proves themselves to be faithful, respectfull,and curteous when with you...someone who cares about ALL of you..emotionally/physically....that's true love, and it never dies.
I agree.
Speaking for myself, the two times in my adult life that I've felt "total awe" for a man... in retrospect was only feelings of pure lust based on their looks, talent and an ideal that I imagined them to be. I find that "total awe" feeling to be akin to a strong schoolgirl infatuation like one might also have on a favorite actor or rock musician. It's not at all based on reality.
After all, how can one be truly in love with someone based only on their looks and such minimal personal contact? It takes hundreds of hours of real face to face contact to truly know any person's real personality and character. And how good looking they are is also not that important in a long term relationship. Anyone that is a "ten" in looks, if they have a nasty personality, becomes a much lower number in the eyes of their beholders.
Anyway, relationships founded mainly on infatuation usually fail after the initial honeymoon feelings wear off... and that is usually after 3-5 years.
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