What kind of Men are women dating? (wife, married, love)

[Rcm58]

I like hanging out in both dens as you know, I'm on both sides for good reasons in my head.

I don't subscribe to I hate women or Men Threads. Personally I always assume that posters that do lack experience in a gender or an income level.

If I go to a restaurant and their food sucks I don't go back later to see if its improved. How does anyone person have enough experience in one mode to speak out?

[CityGirl72]

I go to a restuarant a couple times - because I give them a second chance.

BUT

I am married (for the long haul) but I wasn't going to re-marry when I was dating (I was 32 at the time and had a child already)

I seriously - didn't need a males income, I had my own house, new car, if the faucet leaked I'd call a plumber...and there are a million handy men on Craiglist...

I would not have gotten re-married if it wasn't my actually husband (long 20 year story there) I was quite content in my own life. No problemo

SO the only reason to date guys was for entertainment.

I like men full of life, responsible so they don't leech off me, independant, intellectual but not in a "I'm smarter than everyone" way, laughs alot, great in bed but not every night (thus I never moved in with or lived with a man)

Just a casual fun, full of life guy who's not looking for a serious commitment, but is not a "user" either.

I also liked tall, bigger then average (like 6'3" 240 lbs) - at the time mid 30s to mid 40s

[Rcm58]

CityGirl anyone with your drive and can live in a rainy dismal atmosphere has to have optimisim and I can read that in your post. Preference in body types is something you can not argue, its part of all of us, you sound like a good catch, I'm sure your husband knows it

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by Rcm58

I like hanging out in both dens as you know, I'm on both sides for good reasons in my head.

I don't subscribe to I hate women or Men Threads. Personally I always assume that posters that do lack experience in a gender or an income level.

If I go to a restaurant and their food sucks I don't go back later to see if its improved. How does anyone person have enough experience in one mode to speak out?

I think in most cases, not all, speaking out comes with age....and the older you get, the less you care? LOL, me anyway

I will never remarry...although I love men, love to hear the stories they have to tell.
I won't ever date again...I'm really enjoying life being single.

I've experienced some very valuable friendships in my lifetime, both men and women...lifetime ones but was never ever good with picking men as a lifetime partner???? Maybe I was never ment to be married. I was dedicated, loyal, a good wife and mom, but the men I chose were just not compatible? And I can't condone cheating.

and so, in the autumn of my life, I'm very pleased with my accomplisments, love men and women...and even my boss now? Go figure? People are the most interesting creatures, aren't they?

[artsyguy]

I'm actually turned on by nerdy smart men. They have to look cute though and the sense of humor is a must. They have to laugh a lot especially at my jokes.

[Rcm58]

Originally Posted by cremebrulee

I think in most cases, not all, speaking out comes with age....and the older you get, the less you care? LOL, me anyway

I agree creme, when your young and under glass, especially while still in school its tough to speak out. One of the great things about being older!

[2mares]

I dont know about the rest of the world, but at this point in my life I'm dating the exact opposite of my stbx.

[Granny Sue]

Well, I joined EHarmony to find my perfect match, but hubby got mad for some reason.


Seriously...for the most part, women are looking for a man that can be their equal partner, to love and respect them. It's not about looks.

My mom remarried to a man that could not have been more different than my father. But their personalities ended up real close.

[Jlyn5669]

Good question.

Being married before, has given me a template, in a sorta kinda way. I know what I expect, if there should happen to be, from a new relationship.

Of course I want the obvious: good man, kind heart, loves kids, is stable...But must of all, I want to laugh. Sometimes it's the little things.

[cremebrulee]

Originally Posted by Rcm58

I agree creme, when your young and under glass, especially while still in school its tough to speak out. One of the great things about being older!

yup

and at this point in my life, knowing what I know now, I don't want to live someone else's idea of what a marriage/relationship should be.