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As far as dating a metro sexual or "Feminine" man, ehhh ... I probably wouldn't be with one romantically. I tend to like rugged guys, country boys. You know, rough hands, maybe a thin beerd, dirty fingernails, broad shoulders, ooo yeah baby! I don't go for the manicured look ina guy. High-maintanance is annoying in women and men, I don't like it at all. Now being friends with feminine guys is ok. This goes back directly on men who have more women friends than guy friends. They're fun. Not gay necessarily, but fun to hang out with even though they like a different sex than I do. I would be friends with one, but my romantic and sexual tastes don't swing in the womanly direction. lol
No give me the jarhead, harley ridin roughneck.......
A guy that spends more time in the bathroom than I do would NOT turn me on.
Well...I had one-"manly"- tattoed- iron worker- harley rider-man of few words ...who happened to be way more of a girl in our relationship than I ever was! He was passive,sensitive and weak quiet man cause he lacked self-esteem and confidence and was intimidated by women so he created his fake image of a strong, distant , tough guy.. LOL. And Iam very sexy,personable,hot ,feminine woman who usually triggers very manly attitude in men and I couldnt "outbit" him...
I like strong manly guys ...
A lot of guys will try to act all tough and manly or fake confidence that they don't really have. They do it because they think that's what women want. At some point, though, the real person comes shining through. So while a woman might be turned off by "feminine" men, should also keep in mind that the "manly" guys she meets might not be as manly as they seem. I personally get a kick out seeing guys drop their voice whenever an attractive woman is nearby.
DennyCrane
So true
Ps.Confident man to me is a man who is comfortable with him(real)self and has courage to express himself freely in an authentic way that doesnt include any kind of pose,play or pretending. Man who is vunerable,open and able to show his true ways,needs and feelings is not "not-manly" in any way.This is a sign of strengh
Absolutely. I much prefer the feminine man to the macho man. In fact, I read somewhere once some study that showed that the feminine man makes a better husband and that women prefer them as husbands. I never liked guy's guy types. I had nothing in common with them. I don't like sports, drinking, cars, action movies or video games. I wanted a man who would be content to talk on the phone for hours, share feelings, have deep conversations, write me long emails, go shopping with me, share the housework with me, never screams or yells, is calm and approaches disagreements by rationally talking them out, is non-aggressive and love animals. My hubby has all of these traits; he's a metrosexual. He does have some male interests--he's in a couple of sports leagues and loves action movies (and doesn't like chick flicks).
Hubby loves cats, likes to shop (will shop with me for hours and hold my purse while I try on clothes), likes interior design, is willing to have deep conversations for hours, doesn't mind housework, and is very affectionate and loves to cuddle. The kind of man who would eagerly spend the afternoon scrapbooking and finds it fun! Also, the kind of man who's not afraid to have interests that differ from the typical male norm. I also think the feminine man is more woman-friendly. The feminine man probably wouldn't ogle women when you're out with him in public, make disrespectful comments about women or objectify women. They're usually the "nice" guys who are very respectful of women. That's the kind of guy I like, and that describes my husband perfectly.
I can't relate to the typical macho alpha male types. I'm extremely feminine, and these types of men rub me the wrong way. I can't stand their cockiness, their aggressiveness, their lack of empathy and perceptiveness. They're the kind of guy who sits in a chair with his legs wide apart, leaning back with his hands clasped behind his head, talking at you/over you and not really hearing what you're saying. I prefer the man who sits leaning forward in a chair, with his legs crossed, who speaks with you, and genuinely wants to hear what you have to say.
When I think of a movie that has both types personified I think of the movie "The Break-Up" with Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston. Vince Vaughn's character would be the masculaine male type--not my type at all. Jennifer Aniston's friend's husband (Addie's husband in the movie) would be more of the feminine male (he was the blond guy).
I knew it! More girls like guys like me!
The things you speak of in your boyfriend is much like I am even if I came off like a conceited person sometimes. Guys like me make better partners and this is why I feel I have a reason to tell those that who make a bad choice.
I often shudder at complete masculinity honestly. I am the flaky eccentric "gay" looking guy.
I'm with you sister! I have broken up with guys just because they had feminine traits. Give me a rugged, athletic man in a baseball cap. I'll even drink beer and watch the game with him. Oh wait...I have one at home.
You're a suburban Asheville area mom, IT FIGURES!!
You mean just says thinks like "oh no he didnt" or are you talking about a man that twists his ass when he walks? If the latter, YUCK. I'm a guy and I get disgusted when I see guys doing that? But femininity such as using lotion or scented products, is okay, as long as he can balance it out w/ masculinity(i.e not always giving a damn if his clothes match, etc).
I'm a pretty balanced guy. One could look at me or talk to me and say that I have some feminine traits(interest in skin care), however, I'm not a really girly guy(like I'm not going to avoid contact w/ somebody b/c I have a pimple, and I'm not going get all dolled up to go to the dollar store, IT'S DOLLAR GENERAL FOR CRYING OUT LOUD).
Joel
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be careful what you wish for;)
