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It looks like my other post about masculine women is getting some interest, so lets reverse the question and talk about straight feminine looking men.
What do you think of men who want relationships with women but are not the masculine ideal? In fact they look and act feminine. I am not talking about a cross dresser or transgender person, but just a man who has lots of female traits.
I am thinking of Mr Rogers. Soft, gentle, non athletic, small bones, weak chin, skinny, weak voiced and non assertive. Though really nice, supportive, communicative, easy going and pleasant. All the negative things associated with macho and manliness is gone in this person.
Would you want a relationship with a clone of Mr Rogers?
Although, what you are describing seems to me to be associated with geekiness rather than "femininity". You seem to be ascribing meekness to femininity, which I would take issue with.
Absolutely. I much prefer the feminine man to the macho man. In fact, I read somewhere once some study that showed that the feminine man makes a better husband and that women prefer them as husbands. I never liked guy's guy types. I had nothing in common with them. I don't like sports, drinking, cars, action movies or video games. I wanted a man who would be content to talk on the phone for hours, share feelings, have deep conversations, write me long emails, go shopping with me, share the housework with me, never screams or yells, is calm and approaches disagreements by rationally talking them out, is non-aggressive and love animals. My hubby has all of these traits; he's a metrosexual. He does have some male interests--he's in a couple of sports leagues and loves action movies (and doesn't like chick flicks).
Hubby loves cats, likes to shop (will shop with me for hours and hold my purse while I try on clothes), likes interior design, is willing to have deep conversations for hours, doesn't mind housework, and is very affectionate and loves to cuddle. The kind of man who would eagerly spend the afternoon scrapbooking and finds it fun! Also, the kind of man who's not afraid to have interests that differ from the typical male norm. I also think the feminine man is more woman-friendly. The feminine man probably wouldn't ogle women when you're out with him in public, make disrespectful comments about women or objectify women. They're usually the "nice" guys who are very respectful of women. That's the kind of guy I like, and that describes my husband perfectly.
I can't relate to the typical macho alpha male types. I'm extremely feminine, and these types of men rub me the wrong way. I can't stand their cockiness, their aggressiveness, their lack of empathy and perceptiveness. They're the kind of guy who sits in a chair with his legs wide apart, leaning back with his hands clasped behind his head, talking at you/over you and not really hearing what you're saying. I prefer the man who sits leaning forward in a chair, with his legs crossed, who speaks with you, and genuinely wants to hear what you have to say.
When I think of a movie that has both types personified I think of the movie "The Break-Up" with Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Aniston. Vince Vaughn's character would be the masculaine male type--not my type at all. Jennifer Aniston's friend's husband (Addie's husband in the movie) would be more of the feminine male (he was the blond guy).
Last edited by doglover29; 09-17-2008 at 10:43 AM..
Yuck. Femine men are wierd and freak me out. Ewwww. Ick. Dont date anyone you can beat up.
I'm with you sister! I have broken up with guys just because they had feminine traits. Give me a rugged, athletic man in a baseball cap. I'll even drink beer and watch the game with him. Oh wait...I have one at home.
Are we maybe confusing "feminine" to "sensitive"? Just a thought. In any matter, I prefer a good health mix between the two. I want a handyman who can fix anything and doesn't mind getting dirty but at the end of the day, I want him to have nice hands, nice skin, well manicured and smelling and looking good. Which for the record, is just the way my man is LOL
I know what you mean though, there are some guys that are just too feminine and it's hard to imagine that kind of guy having his way with you and becoming a lil aggressive in the sack which would be a turn off to a lot of women LOL
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