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If a much younger woman is going to marry and have kids with an older man, then she needs to know that should he pass away suddenly, she will be financially okay raising the kids by herself. And I think that the older partner also owes it to the younger partner to work hard at keeping in good health and living as long as possible.
In countries of the Third World, you often find American men in
their fifties or sixties who have wives twenty or twenty-five
years younger. In my considerable experience, they seem happy
together. However, the arrangement upsets people back in the US.
Why, I wonder?
Now I don't take issue with the whole 'what about kids' thing because I never want any, and that's the biggest dealbreaker for me. I'm looking for someone who'll essentially keep me company, come along for the ride, so to speak, and let me persue my lofty goals. Someone to listen to me when I need it, and perhaps to encourage me. I'm going to persue my career goals no matter if I'm single or otherwise. And any potential spouse will need to be okay with all that, or it's no deal. I just happen to find such older men attractive. And however long their around is however long they're around. I could get hit by a car tomorrow crossing the street and die, too. Life is short. Enjoy it with whomever you're with. My current boyfriend is 38, and we have had no problems because of an age difference, because we have a lot in common. And yeah, he won't be around forever. None of us will.
Well my middle sister is 48 and dating a man that is 60. They've been a couple for almost three years now. They get along great and both have kids from previous marriages. No relationship is perfect, but one of the downsides for her is that he is getting very forgetful about his appointments and it's worrisome to her and his friends.
And... 38 is not old. lol I can see that for you, a 38 year old man could be a better boyfriend because at his age, the sex is good but relationship is better because there is more focus on affection and friendship than sex. Younger men tend to be more hormone driven.
Can too much age difference be a problem.......I would definitely say YES. Please read what Twinkle Toes wrote above! Entertainment of all kinds can be a problem. Example: A younger person may want to go to an Amusement Park and ride the big rides, while the older person can say "no way!!". A younger person may want to go hiking, biking, roller skating while the older person can say "no way, my body can't handle that anymore!" Music can also be a problem. The difference between Classic Rock and Modern Hip Hop.
As for me, when I was single in my 30's and above, I would generally date older women (10+) b/c their kids (if any) were older and I didn't have to worry about pregnancy. Some of them liked to cook, so I'd get a good home cooked meal at times. I wasn't a "party animal" and "out with the boys" all the time.
Now, what age of lady did I marry? She is one year older than me, so we are from the same generation which makes our relationship/discussions very nice.
First, a little background. I've always been attracted to older men for reasons unknown to me. I don't know why, I just am. I guess I'm an anomaly, or something, but I don't see the big deal some people make out of it. My family doesn't care as long as my current guy treats me like he should. I don't care if other people think I'm wierd, but I was curious as to the perspective of other, more normal people; so, is age just a number to you?
I was too, when I was younger. Now it seems they're either my age, or a few years younger (but only a few if I can help it). If I dated older men with the same age difference that I did in my younger years, I'd be feeding them applesauce through a straw at a nursing home. I'm not ready for that yet.
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Now that you mentioned it...
