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I've been thinking about this for a while, and I just wanted to get this out of my system. If there's a woman I'm interested in or attracted to, but she's already involved with someone -- dating, committed relationship, engaged or married, should a single guy like me reject the friendship or be friends? I ask because I'm at a sort of odd (but even-numbered) age (26) where most of my peers are already engaged, married, or in a relationship, or even divorced, while some are single. Aside from that, I've never dated anyone. I've heard or read in some places that most men don't like other men "hanging around" with their girlfriends, fiancees or wives.
On the other hand, I enjoy being single -- at least for now, with the freedom I have.
Not a good idea!
If its someone you are interested in, and attracted too, you are only asking for trouble. Go find yourself another friend, who you are NOT interested in.
The problem is if you are friends with someone you are attracted to you may find yourself in the position of waiting for their relationship to go south and being disappointed when either a) it doesn't or b) you aren't the new guy.
I say do whatever you can live with and not be depressed with. However, should she start seeing you while she is still with another guy (as in sleeping with, kissing, etc.), then you are at fault, and I will jump through the computer and beat you myself.
I've been thinking about this for a while, and I just wanted to get this out of my system. If there's a woman I'm interested in or attracted to, but she's already involved with someone -- dating, committed relationship, engaged or married, should a single guy like me reject the friendship or be friends? I ask because I'm at a sort of odd (but even-numbered) age (26) where most of my peers are already engaged, married, or in a relationship, or even divorced, while some are single. Aside from that, I've never dated anyone. I've heard or read in some places that most men don't like other men "hanging around" with their girlfriends, fiancees or wives.
On the other hand, I enjoy being single -- at least for now, with the freedom I have.
I've been thinking about this for a while, and I just wanted to get this out of my system. If there's a woman I'm interested in or attracted to, but she's already involved with someone -- dating, committed relationship, engaged or married, should a single guy like me reject the friendship or be friends? I ask because I'm at a sort of odd (but even-numbered) age (26) where most of my peers are already engaged, married, or in a relationship, or even divorced, while some are single. Aside from that, I've never dated anyone. I've heard or read in some places that most men don't like other men "hanging around" with their girlfriends, fiancees or wives.
On the other hand, I enjoy being single -- at least for now, with the freedom I have.
It just depends on their relationship I guess. If he doesn't mind and she doesn't mind, there's no reason you should mind, right?
If on the other hand one of them objects, I'd steer clear of it. You don't want to be the bad boy who caused problems.
It's harder to find friends offline that are unattached and I can show interest in and relate to than on places like MySpace.
Same goes for attractive women that are single - it's easier to find these kind of women on dating sites and places like MySpace than out in the real world.
I think it depends on you. Are you seeing those married/taken attractive women as possibilities or just friends? There are such things as emotional affairs which can be hurtful for the both of you. I had a friend once who liked me since we were 13. He did not tell me until I had already been with someone for almost 4-5 years in a long distance relationship. I found my feelings changing and we were spending almost every weekend together. That's when I made the decision that the friendship had to end because I love my bf (now my husband).
I agree with you about meeting singles in person. After college/univ. it's harder to meet someone in person as it seems most people are limited to their work related/friends networks. But if you're like most people and have no time to go out every weekend, it's easier to meet singles online. I find that it's also easier to talk to someone online. What do you think?
I've been thinking about this for a while, and I just wanted to get this out of my system. If there's a woman I'm interested in or attracted to, but she's already involved with someone -- dating, committed relationship, engaged or married, should a single guy like me reject the friendship or be friends? I ask because I'm at a sort of odd (but even-numbered) age (26) where most of my peers are already engaged, married, or in a relationship, or even divorced, while some are single. Aside from that, I've never dated anyone. I've heard or read in some places that most men don't like other men "hanging around" with their girlfriends, fiancees or wives.
On the other hand, I enjoy being single -- at least for now, with the freedom I have.
CdnNewbie1 - I am just seeing them as just friends. I also find it easier to talk to people online.
Ah, who am I kidding? I should be pursuing both sexes for friendship.
Sunil's Dad - That's right, I've never dated anyone, although I once took my prom date out for coffee but that doesn't count.
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