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Old 10-04-2008, 01:03 AM
 
Location: Olympus Mons, Mars
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Default eHarmony success stories?

I have been trying eHarmony for a couple months now. I've met a few that were interesting, some pretty bad..1 grossly misrepresented her pictures which were obviously from many years ago, 1 that had some good potential but she unexpectedly "disappeared" on me after talking on the phone/email for a month and then meeting up twice (see my "is disappearing appropriate" thread )

Have people actually developed any meaningful relationships from this website? It seems with the constant flow of matches people are just flaky and just want to keep their options open for something better...a never ending cycle. Is this a good way to meet people, by going through a very time consuming 5 step process to just start communicating by email and then email exchange a few times which takes even more time and after a meeting there may not even be any chemistry...it's seems like an awful lot of work for just one date with someone that you may not even connect with!
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Old 10-04-2008, 06:47 AM
 
Location: Beautiful Kentucky
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I have been a member of two dating sites. EH was absolutely a waste of time. I can't even begin to tell you the number of matches I had (enormous), have talked to only a handful on there, and NEVER had an actual real life date from the site. Meanwhile, another one I was on for a couple of months led to talking to bunches of wonderful men and going out with two (and that's just because I'm very picky!). EH is way overpriced and doesn't produce results. Don't recommend it.
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Old 10-04-2008, 08:45 AM
 
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Oooh! Oooh! Ooooh!

I bet Penn and Teller will do the next episode of their BS Show:


Online Dating Sites.


I really miss those two though.
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Old 10-04-2008, 09:35 AM
 
Location: down south
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I have never been on any dating site ever because I regard it as a complete waste of time and money. Everything is so corny. Everybody loves dancing and camping, everybody is tired of the "game", everybody is not a big fan of the bar thing, everybody looks for loyal, honest individual with a sense of humor. No wonder do they end up so lonely and desperate that they have to resort to a web site for them to find dates. The whole thing is contrived, as if as a group, the dating site crowd collectively build up a fairy tale world in which all the dirty shallow reality of the real world doesn't apply. We all know truth is not like that and we all know everybody lies on their profile page. If I want to find a no-string attached booty call or simply an escort service, the web might be a good place to go, but for serious relationship? No, No, No.
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Old 10-04-2008, 10:40 AM
 
Location: Arizona, The American Southwest
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I wonder about the commercials for E-Harmony, where they show you one success story - It makes you wonder how many haven't had the same kind of success. Of course that's advertising, and they're not going to tell you the success ratio.

It's a waste of money. I'm not with E-Harmony, but with another matching service, and the decision to join them was a decision I'm regretting because I threw away $1400 about a year ago.
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Old 10-04-2008, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Beautiful Kentucky
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I wonder about the commercials for E-Harmony, where they show you one success story - It makes you wonder how many haven't had the same kind of success. Of course that's advertising, and they're not going to tell you the success ratio.

It's a waste of money. I'm not with E-Harmony, but with another matching service, and the decision to join them was a decision I'm regretting because I threw away $1400 about a year ago.
Oh, lord, I thought EH was expensive!! That's outrageous!!!! Dating sites can be great places to meet people - as I said, the one site I was one brought a couple of wonderful and true friends into my life. One of them, I could have fallen in love in a heartbeat with! Dating sites are just like bars, churches, or any other venue.... some of the folks there are honest, some are scumbags, some are looking for one night stands, etc. Mike, as far as the EH ratio, I'm bettin' ya it's pretty heavily one sided (that's to the no success folks).
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Old 10-04-2008, 10:55 AM
 
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Everybody loves dancing and camping,
everybody is tired of the "game",
everybody is not a big fan of the bar thing,
everybody looks for loyal, honest individual with a sense of humor.

The whole thing is contrived
Yep, reading the profiles which all are "carbon copies" of each other is pretty damn funny.

My whole thing is that one can't test chemistry with a person through such a medium. I suppose it could happen, but it is way better to find dating possibilities through activities where you can spend time around a person while doing things you actually like.
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Old 10-04-2008, 06:23 PM
 
Location: Griffin, Georgia
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k374....I hear you just have to be patient when it comes to eHarmony. A lot of people who met the loves of their lives on that site had to encounter just as many flakes and whackjobs. Go check out their "Advice" board sometime. It looks interesting. I used to be a member of that site, had a few exchanges....I think one stumbling block is that there are going to be a lot of matches that are out of your first choice of distance range. But some people have made it work when they gave these far away matches a chance.
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Old 10-04-2008, 08:36 PM
 
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I don't know about E harmony and I would never have believed I would have met anyone online (anything serious anyway) and I never really aggressively tried but after my divorce my friends told me to go on myspace just for fun because they were on there. Well I did and met this guy and we decided to go hiking just for fun. Long story short... we will have our second wedding anniversary this December. He is truly the love of my life. So you can meet someone online.
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Old 10-06-2008, 11:10 PM
 
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My girlfriend is living with the guy she met on E Harmony. They are 100% in love and both very normal people with great careers. I couldn't believe it myself, but they are sooo happy and are talking about getting married, they have dated for about 10 months.
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