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Yup, I believe I did. If she finds this thread, do you think it will change her behaviour?
No, we have both been active on the same forum before once.
She stays away from the 'adult' forums, as no topic there holds any interest to her. If anyone mentions it to her, then she stops posting and deletes her account.
When she posted about my beard, someone else responded that she needed to talk to me. She responded by stopping posting on CD for 2 weeks.
i am one such person. i am pretty and attractive in my early 40's. been married for 14 years now, my child is 8 years old. since i got pregnant 9 years ago, i have not had any sex AT ALL! even in the early stages of the marriage, sex was very infrequent, 2 or 3 times a month and it gradually worsened. i initiated everything, talked with him but he's just not interested and doesnt want to tell me what's wrong. he just said, nothing's wrong. he doesnt even kiss me, at the most, on the forehead or cheeks, otherwise, no touching whatever. he doesnt hold my hand, nothing! i am clueless as to why but he seems to like porn alot from all the stuff he downloads onto his computer. over the years, i have been frustrated, suffering in silence until i met a man 2 years ago who just lighted everything within me. sex was so good that i never regretted my actions of falling in love with another man who knows how to appreciate me.
...over the years, i have been frustrated, suffering in silence until i met a man 2 years ago who just lighted everything within me. sex was so good that i never regretted my actions of falling in love with another man who knows how to appreciate me.
And I think that, given the circumstances, your decision was quite reasonable. Spouses have a responsibility to provide reasonable sexual fulfillment to their partner. By what you have indicated your husband abrogated his responsibility to meet your needs, and you found someone who would. Hooray for you, pikachu67, for finding that person and shame on your husband for not holding up his end of the deal that led you to find someone else.
I generally do not condone marital infidelity, but believe that it is justified when one partner turns themselves off sexually to the other (without proper reason, of course).
Anyone else in a sexless marriage or know anyone who is one?
Oh god this sucks. How do I manage the frustration.
"Sexless marriage" means sex 6 or fewer times a year. We average about 1 time a year, sometimes 0.
I have tried talking to him countless times (he says what's the problem), counseling (again, what's the problem), wearing lingerie (he asks me why I have that stuff on), offering to watch p*rn (I don't really like it but would watch it with him), he's not interested. I am thin and have often been told I'm very attractive. I don't smell bad and my teeth are straight. I'm willing to do just about anything between the sheets.
It has always been this way between us. I went ahead and married him because I loved him so much and "though he would eventually change."
I asked him once if he was gay, he said no. The one time I found him with hidden p*rn on his computer, it was straight... so I guess I believe him.
Help please!!
I HAVE A SIMILAR PROBLEM...JUST RATIONALIZE IT
SEX IS wHAT.... A FEELING ,A HOBBY, AN OBLIGATION? I KNOW , SELF CONTROL CAN BE DIFFICULT........BUT THERE ARE WAYS THE MIND CAN BE YOUR FRIEND........IF YOU LEARN .
i am one such person. i am pretty and attractive in my early 40's. been married for 14 years now, my child is 8 years old. since i got pregnant 9 years ago, i have not had any sex AT ALL! even in the early stages of the marriage, sex was very infrequent, 2 or 3 times a month and it gradually worsened. i initiated everything, talked with him but he's just not interested and doesnt want to tell me what's wrong. he just said, nothing's wrong. he doesnt even kiss me, at the most, on the forehead or cheeks, otherwise, no touching whatever. he doesnt hold my hand, nothing! i am clueless as to why but he seems to like porn alot from all the stuff he downloads onto his computer. over the years, i have been frustrated, suffering in silence until i met a man 2 years ago who just lighted everything within me. sex was so good that i never regretted my actions of falling in love with another man who knows how to appreciate me.
Do you women understand that when a man turns from reality to porn that it is his complete and total shallowness taking over? That he has found more feminine beauty in those pictures than he has found in the woman laying next to him?
This has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with complete superficiality. If you looked like one of those porn stars...we wouldn't even be having this discussion.
So either hit the gym 3x a day and get facial reconstruction surgery, or find a deeper man.
Yup, I believe I did. If she finds this thread, do you think it will change her behaviour?
Just wondering...since you are the beekeepers friend and actually KNOW his wife, can't you have a heart to heart with her? Is it possible she doesn't know how much she is hurting him?
If that is not possible or totally fruitless, can you please have a heart to heart with him? He should not live like this and waste so much of his life being lonely and unhappy. Why he does it is something I cannot comprehend.
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