My Black American Sisters,Whats Wrong with interacial relationships? (love, attractiveness, attractive)

[925mine]

Originally Posted by JeepGirl118

If it's a "problem," it's a race thing. You know that.

It looks like you're the only one who is having a race problem.

I'm white. I was married to a black man for 11 years, but it wasn't because he is black.

I have a mixed race child who is the most beautiful being on earth (she is, she's great)

I think black women have a problem with black men dating or marrying white women because there seems to be an ownership (and I don't mean that harshly) between them. The black woman is a very strong breed of woman in ways a lot of white women don't understand, and IMO, they see the black man as theirs.

This is all in general, and only my opinion from observations for a very long time.

The expectations are different, and I'm sure this will draw disagreement, but a lot of black women don't like white women taking what's theirs. It also seems to be that the higher educated, the less this matters.

[JeepGirl118]

Originally Posted by 925mine

It looks like you're the only one who is having a race problem.

I'm white. I was married to a black man for 11 years, but it wasn't because he is black.

I have a mixed race child who is the most beautiful being on earth (she is, she's great)

I think black women have a problem with black men dating or marrying white women because there seems to be an ownership (and I don't mean that harshly) between them. The black woman is a very strong breed of woman in ways a lot of white women don't understand, and IMO, they see the black man as theirs.

This is all in general, and only my opinion from observations for a very long time.

The expectations are different, and I'm sure this will draw disagreement, but a lot of black women don't like white women taking what's theirs. It also seems to be that the higher educated, the less this matters.

If I had the race issue "problem," I would have created the thread long ago, believe you me.

You are insinuating that white women are not strong???

What about black women going after white men? It's no secret that if you are white and you have been in white social circles, that you have heard white women chime on about how black women are utilizing the white man for a better life. I have. I know online and offline women who have. Ok, so white women go to black men to *own* them - and black women go to white men for a better lifestyle? If black women are so strong ("stronger" than white women) as you deem and they have issues about white women taking "what is theirs" - how did you get your ex husband and why did no strong black woman step in to stop you? That's insane, it's all a matter of preference and certain Ethnicity's wanting to keep things aligned of their own.

[yayoi]

Originally Posted by affi

Trust me, I could care less what color date what color. Its Just that I have always come across black americans who hates it when major black cleles date white woman. So I wanted to ask some black amricans on here whats the problem.

There's no problem. People are allowed to think and feel however they wish. I personally don't have any problems with black men who date or marry interracially. Also, the attitude you speak of is hardly unique to black women. There are many white American women who have problems with white men dating and marrying Asian and European women.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by miu

Riight... and from what I've observed and read, men in particular are very visually oriented, and while they're are more open minded towards interracial relationships, men are also shallow creatures and only interested in dating women that are hot looking and physically attractive to them. So even though these guys love women of all races, they only want the 10's, not the plain looking average ones.

And as for me, there have never been any single black men in my real life encounters that I have ever been attracted to for dating. Zero. Nada. I just don't find men with dark skin attractive. I don't like their curly hair or their full lips either. And that's just the way it is. Then in terms of common interests and personality, I've never met a single black guy that clicked with me in terms of my interests and what I like to do. Again, I'm just going by the black men that I've encountered through work and by chance and I am almost 50 years old. I do realize that somewhere out there, there are black men that I would get along with as friends, but so far, they have not crossed my path.

Miu, on both counts, you must not be meeting the right men. I can't understand how you can say you can't find any black man attractive, but again, that's your right.

As for your other point, yes, I am a man, and I enthusiastically love women of all races, but there is no way on this Earth you or anyone else could tell me that I just like 10s. Or maybe it's just that my conception of what at "10" is is different from that of other people. On the street and even in the office in which I work, I see women of all shapes, sizes, ages and ethnic backgrounds whom I find alluring and attractive. I don't think I've seen one who is a "10".

In terms of who I am, I consider myself a 10 in terms of intelligence, personality and kindness of heart. I know I am nothing approaching that in terms of looks. I do get all kinds of compliments on my appearance from women, and I think that just comes from the fact that I am very positive and happy, always with a smile on my face. I always tell people that I have never had a bad day in my life.

All of this I write just to say that not every man wants a 10, especially men who are not themselves traditionally attractive. I could never realistically expect the most superficially beautiful women to like me if I know that I don't reach that standard. Beauty comes in all types. Not all men are superficial; most men I know are not.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by JeepGirl118

"Thirdly, "race" is not a biological or scientific reality" - DNA proves your theory incorrect. Even IQ testing is DNA related based on race. Asians have the top scoring IQ tests over Caucasians. Now if we want to make this a full blown racial debate, I can drag out some actual Federal Stats from sites that are in support of this and prove it. Race is biological. It is Scientific. It's wired in DNA. Your thoughts are based on personal belief, not documented fact.

I know FULL BLOODED Hispanics' (as full blooded as one can get) that will NOT date non-Hispanic Caucasians or Blacks whatsoever. Stop slicing and dicing, you know exactly what I meant by "Hispanic."

I don't agree with that assessment. Where are these racial "facts" coming from?

As far as the term "full-blooded Hispanic," you are clueless. I just told you that there is no such thing. People in Latin America come from all racial backgrounds. What on earth is a full-blooded Hispanic? Please explain this to me, as I have already explained it to you.

[925mine]

Originally Posted by JeepGirl118

If I had the race issue "problem," I would have created the thread long ago, believe you me.

You are insinuating that white women are not strong???

What about black women going after white men? It's no secret that if you are white and you have been in white social circles, that you have heard white women chime on about how black women are utilizing the white man for a better life. I have. I know online and offline women who have. Ok, so white women go to black men to *own* them - and black women go to white men for a better lifestyle? If black women are so strong ("stronger" than white women) as you deem and they have issues about white women taking "what is theirs" - how did you get your ex husband and why did no strong black woman step in to stop you?

You're so bitter that you are reading into it what suits you. I don't know what your experiences have been to make you so angry about this topic.

I have very rarely seen black women with white men, and I'm sure the reasons are not for a better life. Gosh, maybe they just love them???

And white women do not go to black men to *own* them, you misread my post and twisted it to fit your anger. I never said black women are stronger than white, I said their strength is different and white women don't understand it.

How did I "get" my ex? I didn't "get" him. I didn't win him, or take him from someone else. And no one could have stopped me.

[the intelligent brotha']

Originally Posted by 925mine

It looks like you're the only one who is having a race problem.

I'm white. I was married to a black man for 11 years, but it wasn't because he is black.

I have a mixed race child who is the most beautiful being on earth (she is, she's great)

I think black women have a problem with black men dating or marrying white women because there seems to be an ownership (and I don't mean that harshly) between them. The black woman is a very strong breed of woman in ways a lot of white women don't understand, and IMO, they see the black man as theirs.

This is all in general, and only my opinion from observations for a very long time.

The expectations are different, and I'm sure this will draw disagreement, but a lot of black women don't like white women taking what's theirs. It also seems to be that the higher educated, the less this matters.

Do you think some children end up confused when they're mixed?

[JeepGirl118]

Originally Posted by Sunil's Dad

I don't agree with that assessment. Where are these racial "facts" coming from?

As far as the term "full-blooded Hispanic," you are clueless. I just told you that there is no such thing. People in Latin America come from all racial backgrounds. What on earth is a full-blooded Hispanic? Please explain this to me, as I have already explained it to you.

Pal, when you have to fill in the dot or check something off on an Ethnic selection on a form, you choose ONE that they provide in the selection. They do not care about the "dribble-drabble." What I have said is common sense.

[925mine]

Originally Posted by the intelligent brotha'

Do you think some children end up confused when they're mixed?

Hmmm, maybe, but mine's not.

[Lucario]

Originally Posted by JeepGirl118

Pal, when you have to fill in the dot or check something off on an Ethnic selection on a form, you choose ONE that they provide in the selection. They do not care about the "dribble-drabble." What I have said is common sense.

No, really........you are not making sense. What is a full-blooded Hispanic? Where do they come from? What do they look like?

Race and ethnicity are different. Hispanic is not a race. I understand that the term "full-blooded" anything is an idiom, but in this context, you still can't be full-blooded Hispanic, because Hispanic is an ethnicity that includes a vast array of people, united only by geography, language and culture. A lot of us "Hispanics" don't even use the term.