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Whoa, wait a minute miu. I had to re-read your comment, I do respect your opinion even though I don't agree with it. I've known him since he was 19. We do play the same sport (Tennis), that's how we met. We had many conversations about what his interests are, how he became a single father, his major in school.
Just for your information, I know his brother and his friends and he knows my best friend (male) and I have a funny feeling they gave him the okay to pursue me.
Sure. And if these people are all in their early 20's and... male, well of course they are going to encourage him to have a fling with an older woman. It would be a novelty for them to watch a "cougar" in action. But maybe this guy has some self respect and self discipline, and is not someone that wants to have sexual flings.
And both of you playing tennis isn't really enough to go on for a friendship imo. Plus if he's a single dad, he's probably more interested in doing well in school without the distractions of having a sexual relationship with you. And he has to also think of his child.
And what's with this statement? You think that there's something wrong with a young man that hasn't had sex in over a year? If anything, I would respect a young man like that more and not use him like a sex toy. It's very admirable that sex isn't his favorite hobby. I actually hope that you never have a chance to have a fling with him.
I also think that you need to stop thinking about him sexually and sending out those vibes to him before trying to have a platonic friendship with him. He probably needs some time to just view you as only a friend and not a woman that wanted an affair with him.
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Originally Posted by zippogurl
He does have quite a lot of issues that I can't ignore. I spoke to him before we made a date to meet he said he hasn't had sex in over a year. I also told him when I was driving him home that I don't know what it is but there is something about him that I want, he said physically right? I just laughed it off.
I've had attractive single gay men reject me and I was always like wth....they didn't even bother to accept a date with me to get to know me better as either a potential friend or a potential partner.....it took me a while to understand that they don't know a high quality person when it comes their way.... there are some people that rigidly seek out low quality folks.... and that happens to be the majority of the gay folks in my area...lol
You know Artsyguy, it's funny that you mention gay men, I have dated 2 very attractive men that went to Ivy League Universities and let me tell you I could not tell at all, I don't have that gay-dar. But, both of them didn't want to go any further than kissing. I don't know what's worst having been rejected by a young guy that has a lot of baggage or being rejected by a very attractive and wealthy guy.
Miu, I didn't say there was anything wrong with him not being intimate with a woman for over a year, I was just surprised because he's not your average college student, he is sort of a bad boy. I applaud and respect his decision to stay celibate for that amount of time.
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The gay guys lead you on??? Oh God, How lame is that....seriously, that is beyond lame. Not your fault.
Rejection isn't a problem for me anymore. I keep myself entertained on my own instead of relying on some idiot to get his act together and realize what a great catch I am. ... lol
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Originally Posted by zippogurl
You know Artsyguy, it's funny that you mention gay men, I have dated 2 very attractive men that went to Ivy League Universities and let me tell you I could not tell at all, I don't have that gay-dar. But, both of them didn't want to go any further than kissing. I don't know what's worst having been rejected by a young guy that has a lot of baggage or being rejected by a very attractive and wealthy guy.
No, I went out with a couple of gay guys, which I thought were straight, I didn't know until they wanted me to do stuff with them that gay people do and for me that is a big no no.
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