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Why are you so astounded? Women tend to be a lot pickier about choosing a mate than a man. And my feelings are similar to hers... I'd say that easily more than 98% of all men on this planet, aren't for me, maybe more. And even though I find white men the most attractive (in terms of both inner and outer appeal), I'd date less than 5% of the white men I've seen and encountered. And a man can be extremely attractive on the outside, but if he doesn't have the inner qualities that I need (personality and smarts), then it's a total no-go for me. I'm not even interested in a weekend fling with him.
If you think it will cause a firestorm just DM me.
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I think the best example I can use is the fact that I hate Indian food. Sorry to say, I cannot stand it! The cultural difference in their food, is such an important factor that I dont date girls from India. I wouldnt be able to bear having to eat this type of food on a normal basis, assuming of course the gf would cook this food, much less on a yearly basis such as the holidays to be on her parent's good side. I know that sounds stupid but cuisine does have its importance in my likes.
And Im not going to speculate as to stereotypes since I dont believe that a majority exemplifies every single instance. But I will admit that some of the stereotypes of the cultural differences amongst some ethnicities serve me some type of baseline whether the relationship will go anywhere or not.
For example:
Being Italian/Mexican I am very big into close knit families that aren't just about the nuclear family. Im talking about cousins/aunts/uncles/etc. And Im not talking about families that only get together for the holidays, but that get together every weekend or two. I hate to see families not getting along, having to stand each other, not getting together, etc. Ive dated girls in families such as that and I'm always like, "WTF...You're family. Get over it!" This is just an example.
Asian families, arent typically closely bonded, but I dont let the stereotype base my decision on whether to go out with an asian girl, but I try to see if her family is close or not. Whether the girl is asian, white, black, latina, if her family is beefing, its a turn off since I see that they don't hold the same cultural values that my family does. I know it sounds judgmental and I might be labeling a potential great person based on her family, but I wouldnt want to chance being with someone that could potentially hold grudges and split my family apart.
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great post and explanation. I appreciate you taking time to explan. You make very valid points, especially as it relates to the food. I never thought about that before, that makes a lot of sense, to me. I like your take on the family as well. Good stuff Wes.........
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Originally Posted by wesside
I think the best example I can use is the fact that I hate Indian food. Sorry to say, I cannot stand it! The cultural difference in their food, is such an important factor that I dont date girls from India. I wouldnt be able to bear having to eat this type of food on a normal basis, assuming of course the gf would cook this food, much less on a yearly basis such as the holidays to be on her parent's good side. I know that sounds stupid but cuisine does have its importance in my likes.
And Im not going to speculate as to stereotypes since I dont believe that a majority exemplifies every single instance. But I will admit that some of the stereotypes of the cultural differences amongst some ethnicities serve me some type of baseline whether the relationship will go anywhere or not.
For example:
Being Italian/Mexican I am very big into close knit families that aren't just about the nuclear family. Im talking about cousins/aunts/uncles/etc. And Im not talking about families that only get together for the holidays, but that get together every weekend or two. I hate to see families not getting along, having to stand each other, not getting together, etc. Ive dated girls in families such as that and I'm always like, "WTF...You're family. Get over it!" This is just an example.
Asian families, arent typically closely bonded, but I dont let the stereotype base my decision on whether to go out with an asian girl, but I try to see if her family is close or not. Whether the girl is asian, white, black, latina, if her family is beefing, its a turn off since I see that they don't hold the same cultural values that my family does. I know it sounds judgmental and I might be labeling a potential great person based on her family, but I wouldnt want to chance being with someone that could potentially hold grudges and split my family apart.
I think the best example I can use is the fact that I hate Indian food. Sorry to say, I cannot stand it! The cultural difference in their food, is such an important factor that I dont date girls from India. I wouldnt be able to bear having to eat this type of food on a normal basis, assuming of course the gf would cook this food, much less on a yearly basis such as the holidays to be on her parent's good side. I know that sounds stupid but cuisine does have its importance in my likes.
And Im not going to speculate as to stereotypes since I dont believe that a majority exemplifies every single instance. But I will admit that some of the stereotypes of the cultural differences amongst some ethnicities serve me some type of baseline whether the relationship will go anywhere or not.
For example:
Being Italian/Mexican I am very big into close knit families that aren't just about the nuclear family. Im talking about cousins/aunts/uncles/etc. And Im not talking about families that only get together for the holidays, but that get together every weekend or two. I hate to see families not getting along, having to stand each other, not getting together, etc. Ive dated girls in families such as that and I'm always like, "WTF...You're family. Get over it!" This is just an example.
Asian families, arent typically closely bonded, but I dont let the stereotype base my decision on whether to go out with an asian girl, but I try to see if her family is close or not. Whether the girl is asian, white, black, latina, if her family is beefing, its a turn off since I see that they don't hold the same cultural values that my family does. I know it sounds judgmental and I might be labeling a potential great person based on her family, but I wouldnt want to chance being with someone that could potentially hold grudges and split my family apart.
Do you date another race because you dislike the men of your race or do you just bhappen to like that person who is of another race?
Be honest.
If you're a black women answering please stay away from the " there are no good black guys BS" that's why I date white guys.
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Dude you having a hard time finding a white chick or do you feel insecure when you are with one? Don't want to come across obtuse but you seem to be always looking for answers. Why not just roll with it and not over analyze things.
Who died and made you king of CD? If people did not ask questions would there be a CD?
You're correct, you are a blabber mouth, with nothing worth saying so you need to insult others. Are you aware this is what message boards are all about? LOLOLOLOL...funny guy/gal you are!!!
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Originally Posted by Raggy dee Ann
Dude you having a hard time finding a white chick or do you feel insecure when you are with one? Don't want to come across obtuse but you seem to be always looking for answers. Why not just roll with it and not over analyze things.
Who died and made you king of CD? If people did not ask questions would there be a CD?
You're correct, you are a blabber mouth, with nothing worth saying so you need to insult others. Are you aware this is what message boards are all about? LOLOLOLOL...funny guy/gal you are!!!
You forgot the opinionated infront of the blabber mouth. Listen I'm giving an opinion like anyone else and I have done so if a few of the countless threads on here regarding inter-racial dating.
Is it that big a deal? Ooops yes I forgot it's America and for some it's still a big deal.
Somebody shoot me the day I have to toture myself with endless questions when ever I date a white guy or someone of another race other than Black.
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. Listen I'm giving an opinion like anyone else and I have done so if a few of the countless threads on here regarding inter-racial dating. 
