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Old 10-13-2008, 05:22 PM
 
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Did you know you and I judge others virtually everyday of our lives , and rightly so ? We judge anothers behaviour/ motives/ actions, whenever a repairman comes to the door, when we approach a busy intersection with our cars, when the economy goes into a severe recession, when theres a presidential election, when a neighbor walks their dog and it goes #2 on our grass, etc... Do you sense some judgement in these examples ? As to the OP'er , she posted her dilemna asking for our advice and wisdom ; that requires judging the situation and everyone involved so we can respond accordingly. Further, every post and reply made in CityData gets judged accordingly by its viewers...so Id encourage you not to play 'the judgement card' as it is invalid to do so .




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Old 10-13-2008, 07:13 PM
 
Location: 👶🏾CHI🛫CVG🛬AVL🛫CMH🛬CHI🛫?
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you have two options: you can stick around until he graduates and if he doesnt get a job then leave

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you can leave now. you dont seem to happy and sometimes we stay in relationships for the comfort and convience for it but the "love" is not that "passionate, I want to spend the rest of my life with you, I will die for you" love. If the passion isnt there its no use prolonging the inevitable. In his defense, I couldnt work in college because I needed to focus 100% on my grades (thus why he is living at home and not on his own). HE invited YOU in, you can leave whenever. It doesnt sound like much is keeping you there anyways....
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Old 10-13-2008, 07:53 PM
 
Location: New York
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he is 27..im 25. he is studying bussiness administration and goes to school from mon-thurs...
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Old 10-13-2008, 07:56 PM
 
Location: New York
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Well im not just gonna move in with random guys!
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:02 PM
 
Location: New York
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wow..Listen..i pay rent and bills..i love his family and him..he studies bussiness administration and goes to school mon-thurs. i used to go to schoold full time and work! i love him...if not i wouldnt be here..i just came on here because i have nobody to talk to. but anyways...what ever, thank you everyone for your advice
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Old 10-13-2008, 09:03 PM
 
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wow..Listen..i pay rent and bills..i love his family and him..he studies bussiness administration and goes to school mon-thurs. i used to go to schoold full time and work! i love him...if not i wouldnt be here..i just came on here because i have nobody to talk to. but anyways...what ever, thank you everyone for your advice
Hey, God bless you sweetheart. I was your age exactly when I moved to New York, and it can be the loneliest town in the world. Sounds like you're down for this guy and that's beautiful. You just came on here to air out some feelings and see what everybody thought and look what you got.

I'm sorry you have no one else to talk to, no family? Friends, even out of state? That can be hard. I too have wondered if everybody on here is as cold as they seem sometimes. I'd say it's either the anonymity that gives people the courage to be so harsh, or it could be just the lack of inflection too; maybe if you heard the voices to go along with the posts they would sound a lot different.

Obviously, people who come on here have something missing in their lives, myself included, and so that could be what you're hearing. But don't worry too much, you are young and you have all the possibilities of life ahead of you.
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Old 10-14-2008, 05:28 AM
 
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Well im not just gonna move in with random guys!
Dont move in with any guy, period. Its wrong for many reasons and it clouds and masks issues which you would be able to more readily see otherwise. Whatever our media and culture teaches, just go against it and youll be fine.
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