Why is it always Women who File for Divorce? (Japanese, issues, remarried)
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No, Im actually married again.....believe it or not. At least this one isnt a gold digger in the monetary sense, shes just constantly nagging, and asking me crap.
On the contrary, I never ask her for anything outside of one thing, which will remain nameless, that is constantly denied.
Instead of getting out the divorce papers, I just sigh, and roll over, and thats the end of it.
So instead of working on your problems - you are ignoring them and you are therefore unhappy. Also - because of your life - you assume that all women are like that.
You are in control of your own life. If you want it to be better - only you have the power to do so. Talk to your wife. Go to a marriage counselor. Figure out what you can do to make the problem better. What is she nagging you about? Are these things that you can actually do for her that would make both of you happier?
WOMEN are not responsible for your life. You are responsible for your life. The sooner you stop blaming others and start looking at yourself - the happier you can be.
Yup - men are good, women are bad. You are so right! It's a good thing life is so black and white like that! All men are perfect, all women are demanding harpies who love divorce! You have it all figured out!
Its not black and white, but there are enough women of that condition to significantly sway the the sex who initiates divorce.
Not all women are guilty, then again, those women probably arent adding to the divorce rates either.
What has any of that got to do with my statement. The point was he was so worried that he would take a financial hit in a divorce despite the fact that I worked and paid bills (mortgage) and he was presently unemployed.
It sounds a bit silly from his part to worry about taking a financial hit if he didn't contribute according to you. But was he always like that since you guys got married? That is, him staying at home while you work to take care of all expenses: mortgage, bills, food, commodities/luxuries, vacations, etc.
Imagine you worked hard to have a roof, food on the table, basic commodities, some luxuries, bills paid, etc. and he stayed home all the time since the start of your marriage. He cooked a few meals and house was clean. Not sure if women would be happy to be their ex husband's provider for who knows how many years until he got back on his feet. Not something to be happy about, huh?
So instead of working on your problems - you are ignoring them and you are therefore unhappy. Also - because of your life - you assume that all women are like that.
You are in control of your own life. If you want it to be better - only you have the power to do so. Talk to your wife. Go to a marriage counselor. Figure out what you can do to make the problem better. What is she nagging you about? Are these things that you can actually do for her that would make both of you happier?
WOMEN are not responsible for your life. You are responsible for your life. The sooner you stop blaming others and start looking at yourself - the happier you can be.
Its not just me.
Every single woman who Ive ever come in contact with is identical. My mother does nothing but harp on my Dad (who is also an ass, but doesnt give my mom remotely the crap in return). My mother in law does nothing but harp on my father in law, my sister harps on her fiance, my ex mother in law did nothing but harp on my ex father in law, my ex-coworkers did nothing but harp on their husbands (often talking down to them and treating them like they were idiots or toddlers) and talk bad about them.
Only in one situation have I ever seen a woman actually roll over and take equivalent behavior from a man, and that is my sisters fiances mother, and her husband is a *****, no other word for it. The wife actually fills every stereotypical male role in that house.
Believe me, I have not developed my opinions based on one isolated incident. Women, in general, are simply bottomless pits of demand, while the average man has very few demands in return.
It is the Daddy thing. Every woman deep down wants to feel the security of early days and the elation of the little girl princess. Some is just bad advice from their girl friends. Among senior citizens old single women are the most financially distressed.
Well, to be fair, the question was about why women account for the higher divorce rates. Women who havent added to the divorce rate really dont matter so much.
Here's a solution for men looking to get married - prenuptial agreements. I know those people will come up with lame excuses on trust, but no one can't be trusted these days.
Every single woman who Ive ever come in contact with is identical. My mother does nothing but harp on my Dad (who is also an ass, but doesnt give my mom remotely the crap in return). My mother in law does nothing but harp on my father in law, my sister harps on her fiance, my ex mother in law did nothing but harp on my ex father in law, my ex-coworkers did nothing but harp on their husbands (often talking down to them and treating them like they were idiots or toddlers) and talk bad about them.
Only in one situation have I ever seen a woman actually roll over and take equivalent behavior from a man, and that is my sisters fiances mother, and her husband is a *****, no other word for it. The wife actually fills every stereotypical male role in that house.
Believe me, I have not developed my opinions based on one isolated incident. Women, in general, are simply bottomless pits of demand, while the average man has very few demands in return.
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Originally Posted by Randomdude
Well, to be fair, the question was about why women account for the higher divorce rates. Women who havent added to the divorce rate really dont matter so much.
I don't get it... All women are nags... Some women might be okay... All the women I've ever known are harpies... I guess there might be a couple decent women out there...
Dude - all women are not the same. Do I sometimes get on to my husband? Yes. And he tells me I have every right to. If I ask him to do something - and he says he will - and then a month goes by and he still hasn't done it - he wants me to get on to him about it. This is not me being demanding - this is my husband being lazy. And he admits it. He probably doesn't ask as much of me because I take care of most things - and if I didn't - they just wouldn't get done. We have a happy marriage. We are happy together. I'm not evil and he's not perfect.
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