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Old 10-13-2008, 08:01 AM
 
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Easiest answer would be to just ask her what she has in mind. Make sure when you have this conversation that it is during a neutral time and in a neutral place. Before, during or after romance isn't a good time. How about this...........
While watching TV one evening, say...."Honey, you've expressed that I'm not very aggressive and I need more clarification so I can try to work with you on this. I can't meet your needs if I don't know what they are so can you give me some examples of what you would like for me to try?"
Listen, be open to suggestions and don't let your manhood feel threatened.
Lol I am NOT dressing in women's clothing if that's what you mean...

Btw asking her questions on 'neutral' time will then turn it from being neutral to being an issue again
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:05 AM
 
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He may be the one who is mean, mean, mean but she is not here to tell us her side, so while I keep an open mind, we only hear one side.

We are all hear to talk things out and have someone on our side. Nothing we say here will likely make or break a situation. I guess what I am trying to say is, it is not a court of law only a place of reprieve.
Pay no mind mrstewart,pretty much everyone in my neck of the woods are like lawyers Up until here I thought that just plain honesty and straightforwardness were good enough
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:17 AM
 
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Perhaps she wants you to pull her hair and not run your fingers through it.
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:19 AM
 
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Maybe you could learn to braid it, roll it, or do an updo...maybe she just wants a hairdresser
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:26 AM
 
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No, really, what if what she is asking for is to be dominated?
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:27 AM
 
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No, really, what if what she is asking for is to be dominated.
Never thought about that...and I don't want to.
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:44 AM
 
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Perhaps she wants you to pull her hair and not run your fingers through it.
Nah she'd probably punch me then
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Old 10-13-2008, 08:45 AM
 
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Never thought about that...and I don't want to.
See why can't I just have someone like you?...
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Old 10-13-2008, 09:15 AM
 
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Nah she'd probably punch me then
Have you spoken to her about it?

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Of course you have not. I went back to read through your posts. I find a repetitive pattern and this is what I am reading from you:


You move in with a girl because you needed a place to stay-you had to think fast. Its not your fault.
You move to an area that you hate because of a relationship that you would have left except that would have broken her heart. So. its her fault for the move.
She has an ex-boyfriend that she is in contact with and it is her fault that she has ex-boyfriends.
You state that your not aggressive romantically, although you are pursuing a side relationship aggresively. She should have known that your not romantically aggressive, its her fault.

You do not wish to discuss those issues of pertaining to sexual needs that she might need. Yet, you are wary that she might want sexual attention from someone else due to pictures.

So, at what point do you become a responsible party to your own demise? Your lack of effort is showing.

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Old 10-13-2008, 10:30 AM
 
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Have you spoken to her about it?
Yea she's really not into the crazy stuff.
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