A Friend's Ordeal (dates, guys, sexy, conversation)
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Well, I know quite a few people with tattooes, including tattooes of names of their former spouses/ girlfriends. I can tell you this:
It's NOT that the woman wants to keep her ex's name on her body. More than likely, it's about her wanting to remove it on her own time. Yes, I know, ideally, by the time she broke up w/ her ex, she should have IMMEDIATELY gone back to the parlor to have it patched up w/ something else on top of the ex's name. BUT, since it's probably something she NO longer thinks about on a daily basis (come on, who on Earth LOOKS @ their privates every single second? People tend to "feel it" more often than looking @ it ).
However, now that her boyfriend makes a big issue out of it and WANTS HER to have it out of her body is seen as a control maneuver from his part. It's her body, therefore, it's UP TO HER as far as WHEN to remove it.
I know people that still have tattooes of their exes on their bodies, and happily married for years. Not a big deal.
Why is it than when someone get's involved with another, that everything is fine...like smoking, tattoo's or whatever. But when the the relationship becomes more serious, they want the things that they were aware of before...changed??? It makes no sense to me.
Why is it than when someone get's involved with another, that everything is fine...like smoking, tattoo's or whatever. But when the the relationship becomes more serious, they want the things that they were aware of before...changed??? It makes no sense to me.
EXACTLY my point! You either accept the person AS IS from the beginning, or not at all. Having someone trying to change you (for the other person's sake of... well... whatever they "think" is the ideal companion "should be") does not produce a feel-good relationship.
EXACTLY my point! You either accept the person AS IS from the beginning, or not at all. Having someone trying to change you (for the other person's sake of... well... whatever they "think" is the ideal companion "should be") does not produce a feel-good relationship.
The first few dates or weeks or maybe even months it isn't exactly cool to say "now that we are dating time to get that removed"
I already had a dislike of tats but honestly a guys name really is a slap on insult.It is sorta like in conversation constantly saying "well my ex use to do that,or use to be like that".
Would you ladies mind if your guy kept a photo of his ex on your nightstand?
Well it is a thorn in the side that reminds that "he was there before you" or "she loved him first".
Either way sexually or mentally not cool.
I'd have to say that's insecurity on the part of whom she's with now. It's not like they're 14 or 15 and this is their first relationship ever. They're grown adults and have a past. I have piercings I got for specific reasons and no, unless I felt like it, would I remove them for anyone. It's her body, she can do whatever she wants with it.
Honestly, if this is the biggest problem they have... stop sweatin' the small stuff. If a tattoo of someone's name is the make or break deal, then someone has a tad bit of growing up to do... or a lot, depending on how you wanna look at it.
a tattoo is no big deal. a tattoo of an ex is also no big deal. maybe its a reminder of what not to accept in a relationship. a reminder that what she had with that guy is a stain on her judgement. its a reminder to do better.
in the end who knows why she keeps it. what if she had a tattoo of a magic mushroom from here younger hippie days. and lets say that homeboy is straight edge. no drugs no nothing. and homegirl is a reformed druggie. would he ask her to remove it as well? maybe its a reminder of her drug use and her past? a reminder to do better.
Why is it than when someone get's involved with another, that everything is fine...like smoking, tattoo's or whatever. But when the the relationship becomes more serious, they want the things that they were aware of before...changed??? It makes no sense to me.
That's usually after the honeymoon and beginning of real life.
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