Is he too comfortable or not into it? (guys, calling, personality)

[artsyguy]

That is so manipulative. If somebody started to make themselves unavailable to me, I'd start ignoring the person back because it can be interpreted that there is a lack of interest.

My advice is just be direct and say you both need space OR be even more direct and say "I want to spend more time with you sort of like how we were dating at the start. What do you think of that?" End of story . She has needs that need to be met and sometimes the 3 times a week schedule needs to modified to 5 times a week.

Originally Posted by Twinkle Toes

Sounds like he doesn't have tp try as hard now. He's gotten complacent and comfy. You may want to start making yourself unavailable. After all, people want what is unavailable. Trust me - we all have air. We get to breathe it everyday. We take it for granted that we have it because it is plentiful and available. What if we ceased to have air? You can't breathe anymore because air is unavailable. All of a sudden it becomes real valuable and in demand! Water - same thing. Make yourself unavailable to a point, but not so unavailable that he forgets who you are.

[djfish34ren]

Your posts are great man- straight to the point with complete disregard to what others might "feel" because of them... the truth does hurt in most cases.

Originally Posted by artsyguy

That is so manipulative. If somebody started to make themselves unavailable to me, I'd start ignoring the person back because it can be interpreted that there is a lack of interest.

My advice just be direct and say you both need space. End of story .

[artsyguy]

lol exactly that would indicated you want to separate from me ....

Originally Posted by djfish34ren

Hmm... I was the opposite of this one. With my ex, I grew comfortable in the relationship, and stopped wanting to see her all the time and stopped planning nights out so often... I just knew that she was there. Well, obviously that didn't work out.....

[djfish34ren]

Well I learned from it, so o well.

Originally Posted by artsyguy

lol exactly that would indicated you want to separate from me ....

[artsyguy]

I'm sorry but are you being sarcastic? I'm not understanding your post.

I also said she could be direct, instead of manipulating the guy and just simply say "I'd like to see you more often next week. I've missed you"

I hate it when people manipulate. It is so irritating to me.

Originally Posted by djfish34ren

Your posts are great man- straight to the point with complete disregard to what others might "feel" because of them... the truth does hurt in most cases.

[djfish34ren]

No sarcasm.

Originally Posted by artsyguy

I'm sorry but are you being sarcastic? I'm not understanding your post.

I also said she could be direct, instead of manipulating the guy and just simply say "I'd like to see you more often next week. I've missed you"

I hate it when people manipulate. It is so irritating to me.

[artsyguy]

Could you re-explain what you meant.

Originally Posted by djfish34ren

No sarcasm.

[djfish34ren]

I meant you say the truth without worrying about how everyone will take it, and I like that.

Originally Posted by artsyguy

Could you re-explain what you meant.

[artsyguy]

It is a message board, so yes, I just say it without much worry.

Originally Posted by djfish34ren

I meant you say the truth without worrying about how everyone will take it, and I like that.

[djfish34ren]

Alrighty then!

Originally Posted by artsyguy

It is a message board, so yes, I just say it without much worry.