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Old 10-18-2008, 12:03 AM
 
Location: Pacific NW
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A hitter, I would not put up with one. sometimes my DH doesn't make himself clear on something then get pissy when I try to get the whole infortmation. He thinks he tells me all of it but he doesn't. tonight being one those nights. He can be an a$$ those times. Like I can read his ever loving spanish speaking mind. I think he tells someone else but it wasn't He blamed it on my medication. I pointed on STRONGLY I am not on any or did he forget. It is times like this I do not like him very much.
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Old 10-18-2008, 12:39 AM
 
Location: North Carolina
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I married a smoker after swearing I would never-never-EVER Both my parents smoked like chimneys, continuing to do so around me even after watching me endure asthma and a host of other breathing maladies. About the only time I never saw them light up was when entering the hospital room where I was hooked up to oxygen (this was the 60s). Neither expressed regret at contributing to my suffering even after noting that I got better after leaving that environment

I laid down rules to Dh-to-be about smoking around me while dating and he followed them to the letter. Some years later, he quit.

Dh married me even though he was an adamant cat hater and I had two. 20+ years later he is as much a cat lover as I
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Old 10-18-2008, 08:14 AM
 
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I dont make 'deals' so this wouldnt apply here.
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Old 10-18-2008, 09:22 PM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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Hmm, well, I guess I have changed one or two.

I used to say I would never date a religious girl. Now, I would date a girl who is religious, but just not actively. If she doesn't go to church, but claims to be a Christian, I would still give her a chance. It probably won't work out but it's worth a go. I used to think it'd be tough to date a girl who was a democrat, but now I can date anyone who is moderate, democrat to republican, but that means no socialists (Obama, for instance, is a socialist, not saying his supporters are, but if a girl believed what he did, that would be too extreme for me -- total socialist), and no radical conservatives (that would be Bush, for instance, a total religious radical). I like people more towards the middle of the spectrum, it's just easier to get along with them. I'm a libertarian so I don't care for either party much at all, haha, so I don't want a radical of either party.

I would never date a girl with kids, haha, that's just wrong. I don't want kids ever, so dating a girl with kids would be awkward. I'm up in the air about whether I'd even date a girl who wants kids. I mean, I probably would, but the issue is if she wants kids any time soon, she won't want to date me. So I'd be more likely to date her than she would me.
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Old 10-19-2008, 01:19 AM
 
Location: somewhere south of Canada
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When I was younger I didn't want to date guys with kids, now I prefer that they have kids.

Motorcycles used to be a dealbreaker. I don't really think they're safe. Then I met a guy with a motorcycle and I fell head over heels in love, even got on the back of the darn thing to ride around town, just to make him happy. Then we broke up and one of the reasons he gave for the break up was that I didn't like riding his motorcycle with him. Motorcycles are still not a dealbreaker, but I make sure on the first date that any guy with a motorcycle knows that I will not ever ride it with him, not ever! If that's a dealbreaker for him I'd rather know on the first date, instead of two years later right before we're supposed to get married.

College education also used to be a dealbreaker, then I changed my mind (see motorcycle guy, above) but now after that relationship failed I'm back to education as a must have.
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Old 10-19-2008, 01:51 AM
 
Location: TwilightZone
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We all have dealbreakers, things about a person that we consider unacceptable. For me, it's smoking. I don't care how much I like someone, how attractive they are, or how much we have in common. If they smoke, there's no way I would ever want to date them. But there are other things that, in the past, I considered dealbreakers. But now, I've become more flexible about them. For example, if a woman has a child. In my 20s, I would never have been willing to date someone with kids. But now, having tried it, it's no longer a dealbreaker for me.
I'm similar,I used to date women with children because those are the only ones that seemed to get thrown my way. Now that I've been involved with one with kids I think I'd probably steer away from that baggage in the future...
Also if the woman is a cigarette addict,that would still be annoying to me also.
Oh and as a recent poster brought up,she would also have to be more my speed religious-wise and not so diametrically opposed as I've got now

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Old 10-19-2008, 01:59 AM
 
Location: Texas
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Still and always dealbreakers:
Any drug use
Not ambitious
Not well-read
Out of shape/overweight/not hot
Not conservative values
Not family-oriented
Not animal lover
Not super-nice/attentive

Previous dealbreakers I've sorta let go:
Smoking (as long as it's very, very light - social, one cig a day, etc)
Not well-traveled
Not into cars/sports
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Old 10-19-2008, 10:39 AM
 
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No changes for me.

Dealbreakers always have been, and still are:
Smoking
drugs
wimpy character
no sense of humor
no common sense
out of shape
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Old 10-19-2008, 10:49 AM
 
Location: Hot Springs, AR
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I used to require a man to be taller than me (I'm 5' 7"). Then I did date someone shorter than me, it was kind of weird, but he was a good man, so I would no longer exclude someone based on height.

My other dealbreaker used to be he had to want kids, but at my age (40), I only ask that he be willing to leave it in God's hands.
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