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Old 10-16-2008, 02:05 PM
 
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We all have dealbreakers, things about a person that we consider unacceptable. For me, it's smoking. I don't care how much I like someone, how attractive they are, or how much we have in common. If they smoke, there's no way I would ever want to date them. But there are other things that, in the past, I considered dealbreakers. But now, I've become more flexible about them. For example, if a woman has a child. In my 20s, I would never have been willing to date someone with kids. But now, having tried it, it's no longer a dealbreaker for me.

So what are some things that you've changed your mind about? Or maybe things you changed your mind on and then changed it back to where you were originally?
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:07 PM
 
Location: Incognito
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Smoking for me was a big issue. I just couldn't stand the foul smell when kissing.
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:09 PM
 
Location: SUNNY AZ
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They have to be humble.....I can't stand cocky men......no feminine men either (metrosexuals) ewwww....I love me a football watchin mans man!....nice body.....of course hmmm.....reminds me of somone.......oh that's right! My hubby! lol
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:13 PM
 
Location: Arkansas
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A college education is no longer a deal breaker for me, BUT it is still really important. Wait...first, I have no more deal breakers because I am married now, but if I were dating, college would not be as big of deal. It would be like 6th on my list. A deal breaker for me would be if he was 1. married 2. bisexual 3. a cross-dresser 4. a convicted felon 5. homeless~where would we do the hibbity-dibbity? and that is all that I can come up with!
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:21 PM
 
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I just didn't have too many, outside of if she were a smoker or self-centered or dishonest.
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:28 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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Smoking is still on the list, although I've softened a bit on kids, or college graduate.
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:30 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Smoking was and is a dealbreaker.

I have and have had no others.

Only real requirement other than nonsmoker was that she had to be female........
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:37 PM
 
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This is kind of tangential to this thread, but I think it's the best advice I have: Date Against Type.

Think about it. There's a neo-Platonic model of Mr. or Miss Perfect in your head, so you might throw out people who don't align perfectly with that image.
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:43 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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We all have dealbreakers, things about a person that we consider unacceptable. For me, it's smoking. I don't care how much I like someone, how attractive they are, or how much we have in common. If they smoke, there's no way I would ever want to date them. But there are other things that, in the past, I considered dealbreakers. But now, I've become more flexible about them. For example, if a woman has a child. In my 20s, I would never have been willing to date someone with kids. But now, having tried it, it's no longer a dealbreaker for me.

So what are some things that you've changed your mind about? Or maybe things you changed your mind on and then changed it back to where you were originally?
Sanity...after years of searching I've dropped that off my list.
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Old 10-16-2008, 02:51 PM
 
Location: Denver
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I never thought I would date a hunter in my quasi-vegetarian days, but I ended up with a keeper that hunts and even got me to eat venison!
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