New possible relationship (dating, wife, married, man)

[eyeofthestorm]

Long story short - guy I work with. We've had the chance to see each other outside the work environment at an external function. All walls down, no work constraints, blah blah blah.

We sorta "saw" each other for the first time as just plain people. And there's an attraction. And he's running. He smiles at me, flirts with me, compliments me, but won't just "talk" to me.

I think I've scared him off, and am willing to back off. I know work relationships are the kiss of death. But we truly like each other, have much in common, and are attracted.

Should I leave him alone? Or should I try to take things further? Should I let him make the move? Or should I just try to preserve the new friendship we have, and walk on eggshells?

[TexianPatriot]

do you like your job?

[ellie]

Walk-on-egg-shells. It's more attractive.

[The Man in SATX]

best way to lose your job is to do something with someone at work. I have seen it happen way too many times for it not to be the truth. Last person was about 4 months ago.. she lost her job of 11 years having a fling with a married man at the same company and the wife got both of them fired... nothing I would want to do.. not that he or you are married.. it just never works out... (very rare instances where it does work out..but why try the odds?)

[CESpeed]

If you're attracted to him and he's attracted to you and both of you are mature enough to keep work at work and everything else outside of the office, go for it. You're going to hear a lot of whining about work place relationships are bad, but if the people involved are respectful of each other(and the workplace), I don't see why it would be a problem.

[miu]

Keep it professional at work. Don't chase him. Be patient. Give him a chance to approach you. And respect if he doesn't want to date a co-worker, no matter how good the chemistry is.

If you chase him, you might make him feel that dating you would lead to future workplace dramas. So just cool it and keep things friendly but professional and platonic for now.

Do you like him enough to change jobs for him?

[Mr.Cat]

[babigyrl5]

my job is a whorehouse- everyone has slept with everyone and knows about it. news usually travels fast in offic settings, even if you dont do anything sexual-people are gonna know. if you have a job where they dont care if yall date around, continue flirting- maybe amp it up a bit to make him come at you more so you arent throwing yourself out there. if your job frowns upon it then I would suck it up as a loss. are you sure he isnt a playboy flirt and he is really into you? Ive never known a guy not to make more subtle hints or not make a move if he wasnt interested.

[carlitasway]

Originally Posted by eyeofthestorm

Long story short - guy I work with. We've had the chance to see each other outside the work environment at an external function. All walls down, no work constraints, blah blah blah.

We sorta "saw" each other for the first time as just plain people. And there's an attraction. And he's running. He smiles at me, flirts with me, compliments me, but won't just "talk" to me.

I think I've scared him off, and am willing to back off. I know work relationships are the kiss of death. But we truly like each other, have much in common, and are attracted.

Should I leave him alone? Or should I try to take things further? Should I let him make the move? Or should I just try to preserve the new friendship we have, and walk on eggshells?

Leave him alone!!!! Don't date people you work with, trust me, I found this out the hard way!!!! Don't do it! DON'T DO IT!!!!

[asitshouldbe]

Jobs are hard to find these days.