Best tool to meet a person for dating... (guy, call, friends)

[Rhett_Butler]

Originally Posted by rebeccastone12

OH GAWD...guys will be guys!!!

Hey, the girl started it..... (Typical.... Blame the guys..... )

[rebeccastone12]

Originally Posted by ChicagoRon

I use any type of social gathering. I NEVER try to pick women up. I try to start an interaction, spark some sort of attraction, develop a connection and than move things to the next level(date,exchange numbers, etc...).

Yes, I have a process and yes in that order!

But how do you start that interaction? is it by a phone call? sms? if you just go ahead and meet that person then you are great!...but not everyone could be like you...many of them are too shy to start a conversation...

[lola8822]

Originally Posted by rebeccastone12

But how do you start that interaction? is it by a phone call? sms? if you just go ahead and meet that person then you are great!...but not everyone could be like you...many of them are too shy to start a conversation...

Sweetie....leave that up to the guys.....all YOU have to do is give the "go ahead" which typically consists of a glance and a smile.....devious smile . Don't wink....that's sooo old school. Just glance......hold for 3 seconds.....flash a sexy smile (not big but show a bit of your perfect teeth) then look away.....

[rebeccastone12]

Originally Posted by lola8822

Sweetie....leave that up to the guys.....all YOU have to do is give the "go ahead" which typically consists of a glance and a smile.....devious smile . Don't wink....that's sooo old school. Just glance......hold for 3 seconds.....flash a sexy smile (not big but show a bit of your perfect teeth) then look away.....

Hmmm...I get what you are saying...that is why so many guys say....THAT GIRL HAD A KILLER SMILE!!!....Let me try that on the guy I met because of bluepont, I am meeting him on this weekend...I hope he is THE guy

[lola8822]

Originally Posted by rebeccastone12

Hmmm...I get what you are saying...that is why so many guys say....THAT GIRL HAD A KILLER SMILE!!!....Let me try that on the guy I met because of bluepont, I am meeting him on this weekend...I hope he is THE guy

exactly. Try it, works really well. Good Luck this weekend! Go get em' girl!!

[miu]

Originally Posted by rebeccastone12

Hmmm...I get what you are saying...that is why so many guys say....THAT GIRL HAD A KILLER SMILE!!!....Let me try that on the guy I met because of bluepont, I am meeting him on this weekend...I hope he is THE guy

Wow. Willing to settle for the first guy you meet? Slow down and take your time getting to know him. Don't rush too fast into this. Be friends first. lol

[JonathanLB]

Originally Posted by miu

I also feel that when a single woman is looking for a boyfriend, she is more likely to attract men that will try to take advantage of her neediness and use her for sex. I think that single guys are put off from thinking a woman is good girlfriend material is she looking for a man to complete her. Nice men don't want to be trapped in a situation with a clingy woman. Or they question her worthiness as a girlfriend is no other men want her for one. All in all, it's always best not to be so actively looking for a boyfriend when one is single. Great couples usually happen by a chance meeting when doing something else.

The problem is for those of us who don't do that much "else." I haven't met many girls in Los Angeles thus far, because I'm self-employed, so I don't have coworkers on a regular basis, and when I've went out to bars I was surprised to see the bad ratio of guys to girls, very few single girls most places, especially ones I'd be interested in talking to.

As for the people I work with, I work in the film industry -- if you think of hot girls when you think Hollywood, you have no idea what we do. It's a VERY guy dominated industry. It's almost all guys at every position except for acting. Guys are grips, guys are electrics, guys operate the camera, guys do the producing, etc. Makeup artists are usually girls, of course, that's about it. So on most of my shoots it's a total sausage fest, about 85% guys, and I'm a director/producer, I have a lot of respect for my actresses, I wouldn't want to hit on them and make for an awkward situation for them. I like to conduct myself as a professional and make them feel comfortable with me, which means no matter how hot she is not trying to get in her pants I want a good reputation as a professional, classy director/producer. Plus most of the hot actresses have boyfriends besides.

So in my everyday life, I meet no girls. Whatsoever. For any reason. That's why when people say, "Don't worry about it, things just happen." No, haha, they don't. They won't ever just happen because my life doesn't have any chances for that to happen really. I couldn't care less right now, but the way girls think too makes it tougher.

Imagine girls say, "Well, I wouldn't date a guy from work, I mean that's a bad idea! You're not supposed to date guys you work with!" Then it's, "Well I wouldn't date a guy I met at a bar, I mean, you can't do that! Guys at bars are creeps" (not true, EVERY guy in the world goes to bars basically, at least every once in a while, so it's just silly for girls to say this). Next it's, "Well I wouldn't date a guy I met online, I mean that's just weird, what would we tell people?" So what's left? That rules out EVERY potential way to meet a girl! How else are you going to meet her? At at the supermarket? Maybe you could be introduced through a friend, that's the only thing I can think of at all. It seems girls only want to meet guys through introductions from friends. Well, considering my friends don't do a good job at helping me out in that way usually, I can forget about meeting many girls, haha.

[rebeccastone12]

well well ...update update guys and girls...I meet this guy tomorrow......I am actually quite excited...no no...not because of the date but because I am meeting for the first time via a new service...by nature I always love doing things which no one has done ...hahahaha...I met this guy via Bluepont...

How I met this guy is also worthy telling .

I dont want to get into commitment of any sorts but I love to flirt ...I used to go out on coffee dates with guys from Facebook, Match.com, etc but then II was told by a colleague about Bluepont - its a cool mobile app which you can run on your blackberry and then it will let you know depending upon your location if there are suitable guys you should meet (depending upon my profile)...

So I go into this bar and was having drinks...I was eyeing a guy at the corner...he was stealing looks at me...and I liked him...I was secretly hoping I will get to meet him...hahahaha...and then bluepont played a music and I was told that there is a guy nearby whom you might like to meet...I prayed it to be him and replied yes, i would like to meet him...

And Voila! Magic happened!!!...I was so shocked to actually find him waiting at the decided place in the bar!...we decided to meet again for a dinner date tomorrow...

lets see what happens tomorrow ))))))

[miu]

Originally Posted by JonathanLB

Imagine girls say, "Well, I wouldn't date a guy from work, I mean that's a bad idea! You're not supposed to date guys you work with!" Then it's, "Well I wouldn't date a guy I met at a bar, I mean, you can't do that! Guys at bars are creeps" (not true, EVERY guy in the world goes to bars basically, at least every once in a while, so it's just silly for girls to say this). Next it's, "Well I wouldn't date a guy I met online, I mean that's just weird, what would we tell people?" So what's left? That rules out EVERY potential way to meet a girl! How else are you going to meet her? At at the supermarket? Maybe you could be introduced through a friend, that's the only thing I can think of at all. It seems girls only want to meet guys through introductions from friends. Well, considering my friends don't do a good job at helping me out in that way usually, I can forget about meeting many girls, haha.

Women develop their rules only after countless disappointments and dating disasters. Not dating a co-worker is a very valid rule. The bar rule... well it depends on what kind of bar it is. If it's a nice low key neighborhood bar with good food, then it's a way to meet the people who live in the area. Other bars have different agendas. And yes, meeting a guy through friends or family is a way of meeting someone that won't take advantage of you and then drop out of sight. He's also likely to have the same value set too.

I think that you need to make more friends and also make it a point to make more female platonic friends of all ages and interests. If you prove yourself to be a nice guy and a great friend, then they will fall all over themselves trying to hook you up with one of their single friends. Great guys that are single are hard to find. Guy friends will be less likely to try to match you up, and they certainly don't want to help you hook up with a girl they like themselves or anyone in their family. lol

[eastidahomom]

Originally Posted by rebeccastone12

well well ...update update guys and girls...I meet this guy tomorrow......I am actually quite excited...no no...not because of the date but because I am meeting for the first time via a new service...by nature I always love doing things which no one has done ...hahahaha...I met this guy via Bluepont...

How I met this guy is also worthy telling .

I dont want to get into commitment of any sorts but I love to flirt ...I used to go out on coffee dates with guys from Facebook, Match.com, etc but then II was told by a colleague about Bluepont - its a cool mobile app which you can run on your blackberry and then it will let you know depending upon your location if there are suitable guys you should meet (depending upon my profile)...

So I go into this bar and was having drinks...I was eyeing a guy at the corner...he was stealing looks at me...and I liked him...I was secretly hoping I will get to meet him...hahahaha...and then bluepont played a music and I was told that there is a guy nearby whom you might like to meet...I prayed it to be him and replied yes, i would like to meet him...

And Voila! Magic happened!!!...I was so shocked to actually find him waiting at the decided place in the bar!...we decided to meet again for a dinner date tomorrow...

lets see what happens tomorrow ))))))

Don't get your hopes up too high, they have further to drop.
There was a guy I was so looking forward to meeting. We talked on the phone for weeks prior to the meeting and he seemed uh...."too good to be true?" Well, that was the understatement. He was not only a good 10 years older then he said he was (or in really bad shape) but he was after one thing and that thing was a thing I wasn't having anything to do with.