Why am I sleeping with someone I'm not attracted to? (how to, ugly)
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My first guess is (if your a guy), your doing it because your a guy and you can.
If your a girl, well I will get in trouble if I say what I think on that score.
I personally find people who treat sexual contact with the same casualness that they take a leak, really, really repulsive.
OMG stop using people for sex Hotwire. That is an awful habit and disrespectful to your body and soul, as well as to others.
Im not using anyone for sex, its just that I havent come across attractive people lately.
Its not so much that these people are downright ugly..Its just that I dont see why Im attracted to someone who I would normally not involve myself with.
Im sure everyone has slept with atleast 1 person they werent attracted to. All of my friends have.
I consider it "using" if it isn't a respectful relationship. Get it now?
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Originally Posted by HotWire
Im not using anyone for sex, its just that I havent come across attractive people lately.
Its not so much that these people are downright ugly..Its just that I dont see why Im attracted to someone who I would normally not involve myself with.
Im sure everyone has slept with atleast 1 person they werent attracted to. All of my friends have.
I consider it "using" if it isn't a respectful relationship. Get it now?
It is respectful. I'm always polite and outgoing with them when we hangout together. and they do the same.
I mean...you have to see it from my point of view. Havent you had sex with someone you didnt like?
but, this is so much more than just sex or a 1 night stand. Its like, I meet this person often and Im just feeling weird. Its like...what do I see in this person?
No way, I have NEVER had sex with a person I didn't like. I like the person first, get to know them, and then that could lead to some foreplay, if that is good, then possibly sex...but if you don't like him how the heck is that RESPECTFUL?
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Originally Posted by HotWire
It is respectful. I'm always polite and outgoing with them when we hangout together. and they do the same.
I mean...you have to see it from my point of view. Havent you had sex with someone you didnt like?
but, this is so much more than just sex or a 1 night stand. Its like, I meet this person often and Im just feeling weird. Its like, ew...what do I see in this person?
No way, I have NEVER had sex with a person I didn't like. I like the person first, get to know them, and then that could lead to some foreplay, if that is good, then possibly sex...but if you don't like him how the heck is that RESPECTFUL?
Well, when you go to work you dont like your boss? You wouldnt have sex with your older, less attractive supervisor...But you still say hi every morning and offer lunch...which is showing respect.
The difference with me is Im not trying to get a raise or promotion...Im being genuinely nice to this person. So the feelings are real, the attraction isnt.
By the way, I have had very attractive friends tell me they slept with people they werent attracted to, but they liked the personality. ....Whatever happened to liking someone's personality?
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