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Old 10-20-2008, 03:43 AM
 
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I am feeling questionable right now with someone who I have seen about 3 or 4 times within the past month.

I dont know why, but I meet this person for casual fun and while its 'fun', The person is completely not my type, yet I do have an attraction to (weird huh)

The only thing I can think of is the person is really nice and treats me very well. We go out from time to time, and I even called into work one night to spend time together for the person's birthday.

But now I just got off the phone with a really cute friend from back home, and I was wondering, what the hell am I doing having 'fun' with this other person?

I am not a picky person, and I dont mind meeting different types of people...But I do have certain qualties I go for, and this person doesnt fit all of them.

Am I attracted to the person, or what is going on with me?
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Old 10-20-2008, 04:37 AM
 
Location: Ohio
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The answer to your thread might be one of your own quotes.
"I am not a picky person"
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Old 10-20-2008, 04:44 AM
 
Location: Norwood, MN
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I am feeling questionable right now with someone who I have seen about 3 or 4 times within the past month.

I dont know why, but I meet this person for casual fun and while its 'fun', The person is completely not my type, yet I do have an attraction to (weird huh)

The only thing I can think of is the person is really nice and treats me very well. We go out from time to time, and I even called into work one night to spend time together for the person's birthday.

But now I just got off the phone with a really cute friend from back home, and I was wondering, what the hell am I doing having 'fun' with this other person?
Maybe its because you're a skank.
I am not a picky person, and I dont mind meeting different types of people...But I do have certain qualties I go for, and this person doesnt fit all of them.

Am I attracted to the person, or what is going on with me?
Maybe it's because you're a skank.
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Old 10-20-2008, 05:01 AM
 
Location: Incognito
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Maybe it's because you're a skank.

Man, that was a little harsh! I was going to use a kinder word like " You're easy".
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Old 10-20-2008, 05:54 AM
 
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Is this a same sex relationship? The lack of pronouns kind of makes me think that. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
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Old 10-20-2008, 06:13 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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Your only questioning it NOW, because you just got off the phone with a "really cute guy back home."
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Old 10-20-2008, 06:13 AM
 
Location: Henderson, NV
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I would say "easy" also, OR just plain lonely, desperate......the same words I'd use for ME years ago!! But, I'd really watch getting into any kind of a serious relationship with a man......you could definitely break his heart b/c you are NOT ready for a serious relationship!
Now, how do I know all of this (I'm not a Shrink), I'm a 59 yr old male and have been ALL thru what your'e now doing. I'm just glad that I found Mrs. Right 9 years ago and married!!!

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Man, that was a little harsh! I was going to use a kinder word like " You're easy".
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Old 10-20-2008, 06:18 AM
 
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Is this a same sex relationship? The lack of pronouns kind of makes me think that. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
I noted that as well, and I wonder if anyone's opinion would change if we found out that the OP was male, as opposed to being female.

As for the OP, the first rule of getting anything involves figuring out what you want. What do you want from this person? Answer that question, then proceed accordingly.

It is VERY possible to be attracted to someone and never sleep with them. It is equally possible to not be attracted to someone and sleep with them. Possibilities are endless, but so is regret ... so figure out what you want and go for it with no regret!
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Old 10-20-2008, 06:39 AM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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Sounds like instead of taking the time to look for what you really want you're settling for what's right in front of you. Or maybe you're not ready for something intense, so you're reaching out to someone you know you won't ever fall for...there are lots of reasons why people sleep with people they're not attracted to, you just have to ask yourself why you would continue to do it if it bothers you enough to post a thread about it...?!
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Old 10-20-2008, 06:50 AM
 
Location: Somewhere out there...
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Man, that was a little harsh! I was going to use a kinder word like " You're easy".
Or, HORNY!
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