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Hopefully she feels GUILT for taking an active role in trying to rip a family apart...
If anyone should feel our pity, it should be his WIFE and KIDS!
She needs to be feel accountable not coddled.
She did not ask for help to feel bad. She is doing that on her own. She needs a little support to move on. She is feeling isolated, that is an awful feeling.
Hopefully she feels GUILT for taking an active role in trying to rip a family apart...
If anyone should feel our pity, it should be his WIFE and KIDS!
She needs to be feel accountable not coddled.
OF COURSE she should feel guilty, she is very guilty! No one is saying what she did was right. But she is in over her head right now and in crisis. She is asking for help because she realizes what she's done and can't face herself. Offering compassion to a person who truly wants help changing herself and her life is the least some of us can do. If you don't feel like you can do that that is your perogative
She did not ask for help to feel bad. She is doing that on her own. She needs a little support to move on. She is feeling isolated, that is an awful feeling.
She is upset because her married boyfriend is upset with her because she vandalized his car...this is hardly wanting to move on...
OF COURSE she should feel guilty, she is very guilty! No one is saying what she did was right. But she is in over her head right now and in crisis. She is asking for help because she realizes what she's done and can't face herself. Offering compassion to a person who truly wants help changing herself and her life is the least some of us can do. If you don't feel like you can do that that is your perogative
I did not say I could not or would not offer compassion but it is hard to offer such things when she complains about being reprimanded because she vandalized his car because he wanted to make things right...
Sounds more like she is looking for allies sho will feel sorry for her. Personally, I think she should go and offer her apologies to his wife for turning her families life upside down. Getting the guilt off her chest might help...
She says she is "ashamed, lost, can't eat, doesn't know how to begin to help herself" - gee, let's just kick her while she's down and push her over the edge
OF COURSE she should feel guilty, she is very guilty! No one is saying what she did was right. But she is in over her head right now and in crisis. She is asking for help because she realizes what she's done and can't face herself. Offering compassion to a person who truly wants help changing herself and her life is the least some of us can do. If you don't feel like you can do that that is your perogative
I disagree we should not kick her while she is down.
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
She says she is "ashamed, lost, can't eat, doesn't know how to begin to help herself" - gee, let's just kick her while she's down and push her over the edge
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