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Old 10-21-2008, 08:39 PM
 
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Old 10-21-2008, 09:03 PM
 
Location: Duncan, OK
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I'm not going through tough times now...I'm married and have my younger two in the house. In fact, that was my point: that I don't understand how I can be angry about it now.
I can only call on personal experience (again ) but I see your answer in your post.

When P was little you were busting your a$$ to make ends meet and raise him the best way you could. Except for the occasional fleeting moment you didn't have TIME to sit around and contemplate what a loser his bio "dad" was... you were busy being a full-time parent and making up for the absence of his other parent. I remember quite well those dawn-to-dusk days of not enough sleep, tears, and anger.

Now that your life is better and "on-track" you have the luxury of looking back and being royally pi$$ed at what "should have been".

P has already started realizing everything you did and I believe it will only get better.

Just keep doing what you have ALWAYS done, and don't look back now. *HUGS*
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Old 10-26-2008, 03:54 PM
 
Location: California
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I agree - this guy deserves more than a nasty myspace comment. Of course you are mad!!! He's acting like P doesn't exist. What an a-hole.
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Old 10-26-2008, 04:03 PM
 
Location: Oxford, OH
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I agree that you answered your own question. Sounds like you were a great mom. You know you can't force the other person to be a father. Children need a father in their life and I'm surprised that your son at this age would not go and visit with him now. He may never step up to the plate, tell yourself it is his loss in life.
My ex left when my kids were 7 and 9 and his son who was 15 stayed with me. He saw them maybe three times till they were out of college. But all the kids have re-connnected with him and have pretty good relationships. I just stay out of it. But like you, there is part of me that thinks "gosh I did all the hard part and he waltzes in like he's the great dad...and now grandfather" and I can tell that burns me some.
Tell yourself that you were a great mom and that you son turned out great bacause of you. I would tell this guy you are sorry (probably make him feel guilty) and tell him why you went off like that. Did you ever ask him to be involved or pay child support??? You had that right to do that.
Does your son want a relationship with him now??? Did he ask about him growing up??
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