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Old 10-22-2008, 02:20 PM
 
Location: TwilightZone
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Every so often my wife comes home and tells me about someone from her younger years who she's just run into...now mind you this is in Philadelphia,a population of over a million yet she can run into people she knows! Meanwhile I'm from small towns and I couldn't even search my people down! What gives? Must be some sort of fate or something,all I know is I haven't had anything like that happen in so long I can't even remember.

It always puts things in perspective when something like that happens,and why we are the way we are today. It must be either where I'm from or a guy thing,b/c when I used to come across people I used to know they either pretended they didn't know me or we had a brief conversation and that was it. Even guys I used to be buddies with in school don't even respond.
That's why I started to turn inward at a young age and how that seems to have affected me socially to this day,I just don't bother anymore. Sad really.
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Old 10-22-2008, 02:32 PM
 
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Every so often my wife comes home and tells me about someone from her younger years who she's just run into...now mind you this is in Philadelphia,a population of over a million yet she can run into people she knows! Meanwhile I'm from small towns and I couldn't even search my people down! What gives? Must be some sort of fate or something,all I know is I haven't had anything like that happen in so long I can't even remember.

It always puts things in perspective when something like that happens,and why we are the way we are today. It must be either where I'm from or a guy thing,b/c when I used to come across people I used to know they either pretended they didn't know me or we had a brief conversation and that was it. Even guys I used to be buddies with in school don't even respond.
That's why I started to turn inward at a young age and how that seems to have affected me socially to this day,I just don't bother anymore. Sad really.

This is a common thing. I will not go out of my way but I will say hello to people. Even people that used to stick me in the locker and throw me in the shower in Middle School. I am kind of cocky in a way. I exude confidence. I used to hide, but now I will speak to people from my past. They may be doing well in life and maybe Im not at their level but I hold my head up and smile. These encounters always turn out well. Then when I see people who are totally screwed up I take solace in the fact that my life is not as discombobulated as theirs.
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Old 10-22-2008, 02:39 PM
 
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More people more problems.

Get a dog...they talk less and have no moodswings,drug problem,financial woes or general crab-dabery

Its not sad. You are FREE FREE FREE as the wind!

now shave half your head and go walk around.
No one knows you so it will be more fun than you imagine.
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Old 10-22-2008, 02:48 PM
 
Location: TwilightZone
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I used to hide, but now I will speak to people from my past. They may be doing well in life and maybe Im not at their level but I hold my head up and smile. These encounters always turn out well. Then when I see people who are totally screwed up I take solace in the fact that my life is not as discombobulated as theirs.
I rarely run into screwed up people from my past...I'm probably one of the black sheep as far as that goes. And it sux that I've always held myself up to those standards because to some people I may seem fine,just upbringing I guess.
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Old 10-22-2008, 02:49 PM
 
Location: TwilightZone
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More people more problems.

Get a dog...they talk less and have no moodswings,drug problem,financial woes or general crab-dabery

Its not sad. You are FREE FREE FREE as the wind!

now shave half your head and go walk around.
No one knows you so it will be more fun than you imagine.
I actually spent the majority of my youth doing those things,now I'd like to try and possibly reconnect with the past I never had.
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Old 10-22-2008, 02:56 PM
 
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Just wait...In a few years you and the other like you are going to get thrown out of the house and you will all seem to find each other like magic and start complaining together about things no one else gets and bicker like hens. Another thing you wont have to deal with though if you dont do that..You wont have to watch your friends drop off like flies. That seems to really depress people. I think it would bother me greatly.
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Old 10-22-2008, 03:19 PM
 
Location: Not tied down... maybe later! *rawr*
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More people more problems.

Ahh... no kidding! LOL!

I don't ever run into people from my past. And I can't believe how blessed I am because of that! I have no interest in any High School reunions or things along those lines. I haven't talked to those people in years... for a reason. LOL!

I find the more people I meet, the more drama they like to try and drag into my life. IMO, when it comes to friends, for me quality over quantity is my motto.
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Old 10-22-2008, 03:42 PM
 
Location: TwilightZone
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Just wait...In a few years you and the other like you are going to get thrown out of the house and you will all seem to find each other like magic and start complaining together about things no one else gets and bicker like hens. Another thing you wont have to deal with though if you dont do that..You wont have to watch your friends drop off like flies.
I've had that also before,although they weren't old friends but newer ones...
but those ones dropped like flies too.
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Old 10-22-2008, 03:54 PM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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Stuck, maybe you're giving off a depressed vibe and people avoid you. I don't know you in real life, but the vibe you're giving off here in the forum is that of a depressed person. Most people want to be around happy, upbeat people - it makes them feel better.
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Old 10-22-2008, 04:10 PM
 
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Is the forum supposed to feel sorry for you? Because guess what, I do.

You just happened to have known a lot of unfriendly people is my guess. I graduated from a University that was like my junior high. People were friendly one minute, the next minute cold and catty.

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Every so often my wife comes home and tells me about someone from her younger years who she's just run into...now mind you this is in Philadelphia,a population of over a million yet she can run into people she knows! Meanwhile I'm from small towns and I couldn't even search my people down! What gives? Must be some sort of fate or something,all I know is I haven't had anything like that happen in so long I can't even remember.

It always puts things in perspective when something like that happens,and why we are the way we are today. It must be either where I'm from or a guy thing,b/c when I used to come across people I used to know they either pretended they didn't know me or we had a brief conversation and that was it. Even guys I used to be buddies with in school don't even respond.
That's why I started to turn inward at a young age and how that seems to have affected me socially to this day,I just don't bother anymore. Sad really.
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