How do you get over being shy? (dates, boyfriend, married)
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Say Hi and acknowledge everyone you see. When someone does something nice for you say thank you and mean it. Hold doors for women.
You would be amazed at how much common courtesy will get you with women and with people in general.
I don't agree with that, not based on my life experiences. I was always a perfect gentleman in high school, the quintessential "nice guy," and the only time any hot girl would give me the time of day (I was a nerd back in the day, scrawny, bad sense of style, etc.) is right before a test, like a day or two before, when they needed help. Anything nice I did for girls was always returned with indifference. It's best to learn early that being a nice guy doesn't get you anywhere.
I think what I'd remember when talking to these girls is they're just high school girls. I mean, yeah, you're a high school guy too. But think about it as though you are in your mid-20s, you'll never care what happened with these girls by that point. I'm 25, the idea that it would be intimidating to talk to a high school girl is hilarious to me now. I don't care if she's the hottest high school girl around, she's just a high schooler. And yet at one point I couldn't even muster a simple "hello" to a hot girl. I think you have to find excuses to talk, though, so it's less awkward. Rather than going right up to a hot girl, it has to be in natural situations, like where you happen to run into her and you find something to say.
I think making girls laugh is the key, really, and being awkward and shy just makes them think you lack confidence. It's better to act like you don't care if, you don't want to talk to them. Be supremely confident around them, give them just a slight nod or smile, but then pretend you're really not interested in them at all. That works better than seeming like you're intimidated by them.
Jon, you have the same grammar and type-style as my secret crush here on CD who has left me anonymous reps. Are you my secret crush? C'mon. I won't tell anyone. Neither will Artsy. PA is figuring out his business plan, he's not paying attention.
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