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Old 10-23-2008, 01:49 PM
 
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Oh...here are several others. Avoid women who follow this script:

Okay. You pick her up. She looks great. She's making the good first impression. She's really feeling comfortable, and starts to talk about herself. And she begins to launch into this series of disasters that make up her life. The psychotic boyfriends. The boss who fired her for absolutely no reason. The mixups with the credit card company, the phone company, and the bank. The friend or two who got ticked off at her and refuse to talk to her. And, guess what? None of these events ARE HER FAULT. Everything is everybody else's fault. She is innocent, a victim of this vast conspiracy to screw up her otherwise blameless life. When you meet somebody like that--run as far and as fast as you can. For you will be the next person to be blamed.

The woman who talks about how many men put the moves on her. I'm not talking asking for her phone number. I'm talking about the legions of men who lunged at her. Mind you, she's telling you this while flirting outrageously, touching you constantly, and showing off her generous decollete. So you know that, if you make a move on this woman, you will be instantly rebuffed and join the legion of men who tried but failed. In fact, I interviewed a woman like that. Five minutes into the interview, I called in a female employee to sit in, just so I'd have a witness that I wasn't trying to grab the woman's knee. If you encounter this person, run away. For she lives for the kill.

The woman who talks about herself non-stop. Now, don't get me wrong. Women are their own favorite subject. If you spend the first date simply asking her questions about herself and appearing halfway interested, she'll think you're the best conversationalist in the world. Nevertheless, at some point during the evening, she oughta show at least a bit of interest in you. If there's no spark of curiosity at all, then you know you have a total narcissist on your hands. Run away. She's there to soak up your attention and give you absolutely none in return.
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Old 10-23-2008, 02:54 PM
 
Location: syracuse ny
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Oh...here are several others. Avoid women who follow this script:

Okay. You pick her up. She looks great. She's making the good first impression. She's really feeling comfortable, and starts to talk about herself. And she begins to launch into this series of disasters that make up her life. The psychotic boyfriends. The boss who fired her for absolutely no reason. The mixups with the credit card company, the phone company, and the bank. The friend or two who got ticked off at her and refuse to talk to her. And, guess what? None of these events ARE HER FAULT. Everything is everybody else's fault. She is innocent, a victim of this vast conspiracy to screw up her otherwise blameless life. When you meet somebody like that--run as far and as fast as you can. For you will be the next person to be blamed.

The woman who talks about how many men put the moves on her. I'm not talking asking for her phone number. I'm talking about the legions of men who lunged at her. Mind you, she's telling you this while flirting outrageously, touching you constantly, and showing off her generous decollete. So you know that, if you make a move on this woman, you will be instantly rebuffed and join the legion of men who tried but failed. In fact, I interviewed a woman like that. Five minutes into the interview, I called in a female employee to sit in, just so I'd have a witness that I wasn't trying to grab the woman's knee. If you encounter this person, run away. For she lives for the kill.

The woman who talks about herself non-stop. Now, don't get me wrong. Women are their own favorite subject. If you spend the first date simply asking her questions about herself and appearing halfway interested, she'll think you're the best conversationalist in the world. Nevertheless, at some point during the evening, she oughta show at least a bit of interest in you. If there's no spark of curiosity at all, then you know you have a total narcissist on your hands. Run away. She's there to soak up your attention and give you absolutely none in return.
Unfortunetly the first paragraph describes THE VAST MAJORITY of 38-48yr olds who've only been dating awhile. And just listening, not offering advice is gold to them.

The second paragraph describes the false signal woman. This woman always wanted to secretly be a stripper or a kept woman. She will want you to spend money on her. She might even ask you to go meet her girlfriends at a bar so you can pay for everybodies night out and she can show off how well she uses men. There are proper counters to the advance stages of intimacy. If a female is initiating by touching you repeatedly, you are supposed to return touch. If touch is suddenly rejected, he's absolutly right run for the hills. She's playing you! Waitresses play male customers like this all the time.

The third is absolutly true, but if you handled it like I described you're not acting like most of the males she's ever encountered and she's so excited you're actually listening she might tend to go on and on about herself for a date or two. So don't discount this at first. THEY ARE JUST AS NERVIOUS as your secret nerd ever was. If this woman was outwardly nervious at first and then became overjoyed your in!
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Old 10-23-2008, 04:41 PM
 
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1. do not talk about your skid marks or dingle berries
2. do not talk about how your psychiatrist does not understand you
3. do not talk about your mother's issues
4. do not talk about your drug problems
5. do not discuss your STDs openly
6. do not talk about your mental issues
7. do not talk about how "you found Jesus"
8. do not open up a debate about religion
9. do not start a political debate
10. do not brag or boast in general about anything
11. do not talk about how Daddy never held you as a child
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Old 10-23-2008, 05:01 PM
 
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8. "I'm poly-(fill in the blank)"

People should bring that up on the first date if they are polyamorous! I would appreciate someone telling me that right off the bat, because it will be our last date and I'll be glad that he or she didn't waste any more of my time.

I don't think I'm all that opposed to bringing up politics on a first date. If the person's are completely different from mine, I don't think it'll work out, anyway.
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Old 10-23-2008, 05:11 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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1. do not talk about your skid marks or dingle berries
2. do not talk about how your psychiatrist does not understand you
3. do not talk about your mother's issues
4. do not talk about your drug problems
5. do not discuss your STDs openly
6. do not talk about your mental issues
7. do not talk about how "you found Jesus"
8. do not open up a debate about religion
9. do not start a political debate
10. do not brag or boast in general about anything
11. do not talk about how Daddy never held you as a child
That's a good list proving none of us here should EVER think about dating one another!
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Old 10-23-2008, 05:54 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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I've asked questions on the second date like "so what happened with you and your last girl friend?" and "my boss is very conservative, politically...what about you?" or "does that mean you have OCD?" Unfortunately, I've found out things that later reassured me that it was for the best that we didn't hook up. Or better yet, as far as politics go, "what, you haven't read, heard or kept up with the current news about...?"

We always want to meet someone great, but for me, those topics bring up issues that are all deal breakers. Best to find out early before you become emotionally invested.
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Old 10-23-2008, 06:22 PM
 
Location: Kentucky Bluegrass
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Oh...here are several others. Avoid women who follow this script:

Okay. You pick her up. She looks great. She's making the good first impression. She's really feeling comfortable, and starts to talk about herself. And she begins to launch into this series of disasters that make up her life. The psychotic boyfriends. The boss who fired her for absolutely no reason. The mixups with the credit card company, the phone company, and the bank. The friend or two who got ticked off at her and refuse to talk to her. And, guess what? None of these events ARE HER FAULT. Everything is everybody else's fault. She is innocent, a victim of this vast conspiracy to screw up her otherwise blameless life. When you meet somebody like that--run as far and as fast as you can. For you will be the next person to be blamed.

The woman who talks about how many men put the moves on her. I'm not talking asking for her phone number. I'm talking about the legions of men who lunged at her. Mind you, she's telling you this while flirting outrageously, touching you constantly, and showing off her generous decollete. So you know that, if you make a move on this woman, you will be instantly rebuffed and join the legion of men who tried but failed. In fact, I interviewed a woman like that. Five minutes into the interview, I called in a female employee to sit in, just so I'd have a witness that I wasn't trying to grab the woman's knee. If you encounter this person, run away. For she lives for the kill.

The woman who talks about herself non-stop. Now, don't get me wrong. Women are their own favorite subject. If you spend the first date simply asking her questions about herself and appearing halfway interested, she'll think you're the best conversationalist in the world. Nevertheless, at some point during the evening, she oughta show at least a bit of interest in you. If there's no spark of curiosity at all, then you know you have a total narcissist on your hands. Run away. She's there to soak up your attention and give you absolutely none in return.
whew, I've know quit a few men like this...awesome post...but also, scary when you realize, there are a lot of people like that out there, isn't it.

You get reps...
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Old 10-23-2008, 06:29 PM
 
Location: Arkansas
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I find just asking if they have a job, car and/or home usually pointed out the obvious to me! They don't have to have all 3 but a job or a car or a home would be a nice start.
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Old 10-23-2008, 06:50 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, Az
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what about "do you like porn?", "I live in my parents' basement, but that's how I can afford my kick a$$ truck", "Are your t**s REAL?", and "why would you want to leave? you haven't even seen Mr Happy yet!"

yes, those are all from one very painful 15 minute date
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Old 10-23-2008, 06:52 PM
 
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my list is better!

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what about "do you like porn?", "I live in my parents' basement, but that's how I can afford my kick a$$ truck", "Are your t**s REAL?", and "why would you want to leave? you haven't even seen Mr Happy yet!"

yes, those are all from one very painful 15 minute date
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