so it is ME?? (family, personality, friends, feelings)
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For many years now I have always found flaws in everyone I come in contact with. I dont do it to me mean or disrespectful...I JUST DO I was always the right one...why dont they see it my way? I would never do that..., that was so rude..., Did you see how she looked at me??. Why I did this I HAVE NO CLUE. I felt like it was me against the world, Why am I always the bad guy? I have a great heart, I try to do right by people but I end up being the bad guy! It was so bad I couldnt even be around my own friends and family without getting offended or irritated. Then one day after a MAJOR pitty party I stopped and thought about it... So it is me! I am the one who controles my own feelings, I am the one who is so up tight, I am the one who doesnt give my brain a MINUTE to relax. Yes It was hard to realize that it wasnt everyone all these years that aggravated me, it was myself. Once I had learned this very valuable lesson, my life changed. I started looking at life differently, much lighter. Life is too short to analyze every detail of people and the things they say and or do. Life is too short to analyze myself and beat myself up the way I do. I try very hard not to slip back into such a negative thought process...But I have a secret! (I sometimes do!!) I try sosoososo hard...but then my thoughts creep up on me. Well at least I know my faults and I am working on them . Anyone else expierence these types of expierences or am I the ONLY crazy one . If you have how did you deal with it?? Oh please do share...LOL I am sure someone out there besides me will understand. Have a great day.
I went through that stage. I couldn't stand my friends or family. I lived in NY at the time so what I did was I moved to California, away from everybody and exposed to a different setting and different people. It worked out for the best.
I have known a lot of people like you. You are not alone. But try to look at it this way, life IS to short. Everyone, and that means you too, makes mistakes or says something that comes out wrong. Give people a break, and give yourself a break. Stop focusing on what people do wrong and try to look at what people do right. You really will be a happier person.
You recognize what you are doing and that is the first step to changing behavior that you yourself do not like. Good job, keep going.
You're def not the only one. I'm that way as well but I do try to keep it to myself. Rather than criticizing, I make suggestions and try to guide by setting an example.
I think that a person could really beat themselves up by over analyzing any situation. Sometimes, you just have to roll it off your back. I am learning that more and more from my husband, everyday. He is a laid back type person, who doesn`t worry about anyone else, what they say, or what they think. I like his attitude!
For many years now I have always found flaws in everyone I come in contact with. I dont do it to me mean or disrespectful...I JUST DO I was always the right one...why dont they see it my way? I would never do that..., that was so rude..., Did you see how she looked at me??. Why I did this I HAVE NO CLUE. I felt like it was me against the world, Why am I always the bad guy? I have a great heart, I try to do right by people but I end up being the bad guy! It was so bad I couldnt even be around my own friends and family without getting offended or irritated. Then one day after a MAJOR pitty party I stopped and thought about it... So it is me! I am the one who controles my own feelings, I am the one who is so up tight, I am the one who doesnt give my brain a MINUTE to relax. Yes It was hard to realize that it wasnt everyone all these years that aggravated me, it was myself. Once I had learned this very valuable lesson, my life changed. I started looking at life differently, much lighter. Life is too short to analyze every detail of people and the things they say and or do. Life is too short to analyze myself and beat myself up the way I do. I try very hard not to slip back into such a negative thought process...But I have a secret! (I sometimes do!!) I try sosoososo hard...but then my thoughts creep up on me. Well at least I know my faults and I am working on them . Anyone else expierence these types of expierences or am I the ONLY crazy one . If you have how did you deal with it?? Oh please do share...LOL I am sure someone out there besides me will understand. Have a great day.
That is really cool that you're trying to change and see the world and people in a different light. Don't beat yourself up about slipping and still doing it. Just be "aware" and that will help alot.
There is an old saying that goes something like this. You can't control a bird landing on your head, but you can control whether he says there or not.
I have heard that the faults we dislike most in others are usually what we hate most in ourselves...maybe you are analyzing yourself when you disect anothers personality. We all do it to some degree.
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