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Old 10-25-2008, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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I did this, and it turned into a disaster. I ended up excommunicating him again, because he turned out to be addicted to porn (no thank you!), and he also said he would sometimes lie to me if he thought the situation warranted it. I don't need a man like that, yet I was still so attracted to the good parts of his personality that I couldn't keep him as only a friend. Now my life is much more uncomplicated.
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Old 10-25-2008, 02:37 PM
 
Location: Cairo - Egypt
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NO, I don't want to meet him, but If that happens by coincidence I will say hello and good bye.

Last edited by Mona Mee; 10-25-2008 at 04:05 PM..
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Old 10-25-2008, 02:40 PM
 
Location: Boca Raton, FL
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Smile Contacted by an ex

Unless you just run into someone, DO NOT contact an ex if you know they are married or in a serious relationship.

It happened to my husband after 20 years. He was married with 2 kids, his own business, etc. This ex though "wow, let me go after that" and she tried but ultimately failed.

It has been 5 years since. The scars are healing but it has taken a long time. Our daughter just forgave him last year.

The "ex" has no conscience and apparently, has a track record of doing this. She has never "worked" a day in her life and goes from guy to another, then sues for something, gets money, whatever.

For the guys out there: don't be tempted.
For the women out there: keep your eyes open and be aware.

Also, treat each other with respect and keep that spice in the relationship!
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Old 10-25-2008, 03:54 PM
 
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I am trying to get a hold of one now, I would rather have a e-mail rather than to call her fearing either her hubby or daughter's would answer, I rather them not to know.
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Old 10-25-2008, 04:03 PM
 
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I am trying to get a hold of one now, I would rather have a e-mail rather than to call her fearing either her hubby or daughter's would answer, I rather them not to know.
Don't do it, HBB. You'll hate yourself forever. Haven't we told you to drop it?
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Old 10-25-2008, 04:09 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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I'd be curious to see what they're up to now, but I wouldn't seek contact and risk a possible s/o or spouse getting hurt or threatened, (especially b/c they both tried very hard to get me back without success and who knows if they'd re-hash old feelings...) I'd like to be a fly on the wall, though, just to see if they outgrew the issues that contributed to the break-ups!!!
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Old 10-25-2008, 04:21 PM
 
Location: in a house
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I did years ago and wish I hadn't.
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Old 10-25-2008, 04:37 PM
 
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Nope...no desire to contact any of my exes. They're exes for a reason and no sense picking up trash I threw out...thankyouverymuch.
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Old 10-26-2008, 01:25 AM
 
Location: Bradenton, Florida
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If nothing else, just to "say hello? I have grown up now, how are you?"

Actually...she contacted me.

And we decided to be friends, but nothing past that. We've both changed too much.
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Old 10-26-2008, 12:59 PM
 
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I have looked up old girlfriends on zabasearch and people search to see where the settled and if they ever married. I would never try to contact them because they have moved on with their lives and I have done the same. If I did run across any of them I would cool to sit down and have a cup of coffee. I did find out that one girlfriend is on her fourth marriage and I am not surprised at all. I don't see touching bases with a old girlfriend as wanting to get back together with them.
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