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Old 10-25-2008, 08:14 PM
 
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Oh right...she could have PTSD. I'd suggest a forensic psychologist because a normal psychologist doesn't diagnose in case you didn't know. What are his symptoms?
His symptoms are minimal at this point...he got jittery when I found his letters from VN to his parents, still cannot go to Arlington Cemetery when I go...those types of things.

He was a classic several years ago...terrible nightmares, night sweats, violent mood swings, etc. Very sad, but only lasted for a short time. His PTSD was diagnosed as cyclical...
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Old 10-25-2008, 08:15 PM
 
Location: El Paso, TX
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Dreams are incredible, and we can actually learn to navigate through them on a more conscious level. Lucid dreaming is just that, you recognize you're in a dream and can begin to control what happens, who you see, and where you go. I've been having these types of dreams since childhood. The first time it happened, I was in a nightmare and I suddenly realized "this isn't real! i can leave!" I closed my eyes (in the dream) really tight and woke in my bed. In the most recent one I had, I found my cat Humphrey (who passed away Sept. 18th) and gave him the hugs & snuggles I'd been missing.

There are techniques to attain this state, (will post links) so you can then tell him whatever you really want to, like "why are you always here? tell me what you want to tell me so we can move on"...etc. Hope this helps...!

Lucid Dreaming Frequently Asked Questions Answered by The Lucidity Institute
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Old 10-25-2008, 09:07 PM
 
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Aww there is nothing wrong with you , your not a nut case. I think that part of your life is buried deep inside and when you dream your good feelings that you once had surface.

Don't feel guilty your not disloyal to your husband, we can't help want we dream. Maybe like some suggested go speak to someone, if not I am sure in time they will disappear..
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Old 10-25-2008, 09:08 PM
 
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I agree the OP doesn't sound like a crazy bag of fruits. Her dreams revealed normal feelings of deep care and it is ok to have those feelings and to share them with people that can embrace the care and love. Good luck .

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Aww there is nothing wrong with you , your not a nut case. I think that part of your life is buried deep inside and when you dream your good feelings that you once had surface.

Don't feel guilty your not disloyal to your husband, we can't help want we dream. Maybe like some suggested go speak to someone, if not I am sure in time they will disappear..
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Old 10-25-2008, 09:31 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, Az
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I had a very abusive relationship also. It ended almost 6 years ago and I still have dreams about him, usually when I am stressed out and nervous about something. It was REALLY bad when I was planning my wedding and when I moved across country. I talked to my doctor about it and he said stress can bring back really traumatic events in your past. Now I feel like it's healthy for me to think about him, I think I'm subconsciously remembering so history never repeats itself.
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Old 10-25-2008, 09:32 PM
 
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^ You are a very smart lady. Good for you Ketiemey.
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