I need advice please!!!! (girlfriends, girl, college, friend)

[cincyman520]

My girlfriend of a year and a half told me the ohter day that she is having trouble picturing a future for the two of us. Basically it all boils down to me having a "high school" job- pizza delivery driver. I'm 26 and still in school. I'm trying to change this and find a new job. The thing is is I want to change and not lose her but I don't know what to do to change her mind to keep her. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. THanks

[artsyguy]

A job is better than no job. She is probably just scapegoating the job when it is really other factors.

[Huckleberry3911948]

US army is the cure. you are in a rut, she knows it and you know it.
VE in military or jr college will do ya. my favorite is RN.
but dont do it for her do it for you.

[easternerDC]

If you have to change who you are just to keep someone, they are generally not a person you want to keep around. You are in school. Obviously you are working towards a job that is not "highschool", I would assume.

although I have to ask, is she encouraging you to find internships in your field? Or does she just find that a part time job at a pizza place while you are in school unacceptable to her?

[cincyman520]

Yeah she wants me to find internships. she wants me to better my situation i guess.

[Saberai]

Seems like she expects you to take care of her. That's why she's "having trouble'' seeing a future with you. Maybe you should ask her why she doesn't.

[anadyr21]

How old is your girlfriend? How many more years of school do you have left? What field are you planning on going into after graduation? What are your living arrangements (do you live with her, by yourself, with your parents, or with roommates?).

[canibeyou]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

US army is the cure. you are in a rut, she knows it and you know it.
VE in military or jr college will do ya. my favorite is RN.
but dont do it for her do it for you.

Dear gawd... please don't join the military to get a better job for a girlfriend. You don't wanna find yourself hunkered down in a fox hole regretting your decision and endangering the lives of those fighting alongside you as you make up your mind then and there that you no longer wanna be there.

IMO, you're 26. You have a job that allows you to continue with your education while gettin' the bills paid. If a girl can't understand that and she's embarrassed to tell her girlfriends what you do for a living... time to move on and look somewhere else. Apparently she isn't seeing a future with you in it or she could see that you're trying to improve your situation by getting a better education which could lead to a better career in the future. If she can't see that....

I'm willin' to bet you're not too estatic about your job right now either, but it gives you what you need while you go to school and you can see something better for yourself down the road (because of your schooling). You need to be with someone who can share that vision with you and not someone who would make you feel bad for wanting to better yourself, albeit slowly (and I say that 'cuz school takes time).

[dvcgal]

Reminds me of the Wedding Singer. No but seriously, if you are in school and trying to better yourself, then I'm not sure what her problem is. Sounds like she is trying to get out of the relationship by pawning it off on you!!!

[cincyman520]

Originally Posted by anadyr21

How old is your girlfriend? How many more years of school do you have left? What field are you planning on going into after graduation? What are your living arrangements (do you live with her, by yourself, with your parents, or with roommates?).

I'm 26 and this is my last year of school. I live with my parents ( which I think is another problem she has but I'm also working on correcting that) She is 24 and has an apartment with one friend.