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Old 10-27-2008, 09:25 AM
 
Location: Toledo
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I find the two things I value the most - privacy and independence - are the first things I have to give up when getting into a relationship. I didn't have those when I was married, either, but discovered them after I left my husband. And for some silly reason, I seem to attract (or be attracted to) men who want to move right in!

Nope. Ain't happening.
Privacy and independence are two of the main reasons why I'm single as well. I enjoy my solitude too much to have someone constantly present.

Also my relationship dealbreakers eliminate probably 98% of the single male population here in Cincinnati.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:37 AM
 
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I find the two things I value the most - privacy and independence - are the first things I have to give up when getting into a relationship. I didn't have those when I was married, either, but discovered them after I left my husband. And for some silly reason, I seem to attract (or be attracted to) men who want to move right in!

Nope. Ain't happening.
I don't think you have to give up those two things to get a relationship. I've seen a number of couples that have reached agreeable compromises on this topic. The idea of taking off for a week to go fishing or the wife to take off with her friends for a fun week with her college girlfriends don't seem too hard to grasp I guess.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:44 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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The idea of taking off for a week to go fishing or the wife to take off with her friends for a fun week with her college girlfriends don't seem too hard to grasp I guess.
No, in theory they're not too hard to grasp at all; however, in reality it doesn't happen often.
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Old 10-27-2008, 09:51 AM
 
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I don't think you have to give up those two things to get a relationship.
I agree math, but it does take work. I enjoy my privacy and my bf is accommodating, but I do have to keep reminding him that I need to be alone often. Of course we dont live together so that helps.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:08 AM
 
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Hhmm...why I'm still single? Let's see:

* Too busy to talk to a guy.
* There's no guy worth my time right now.
* Can't find one who is interested in me and not thinking of being in between my legs!
* Be..cause I...want to?
* Most guys here in my city have kids already. (oh well)
* It's not the time to get married yet.
* I'm going back to school and get my life rolln.'
* No guy out there who can be interested pass my looks.
* No young guy that has similiar interest with me...without lying!
* Independence.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:11 AM
 
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Joking aside, I went through a pattern of serious relationship followed by bad break up followed by "sleeping around" followed by a serious relationship (rinse and repeat) for several years. Then I put the brakes on and figured out that I needed to concentrate on me. Now, I'm in a great place. I love myself and my own company (IOW I finally "found myself"), I have great friends and a good life. I don't have the desire to go out looking for love, but if it finds me I'm receptive.[/quote]




WELL SAID.
Though I havent really had a ton of relationships in my life, and have never been one to just 'sleep around', I too, have decided it was a good idea to just step back and take a break for the world of heartbreak, control and relationships for awhile. When Im ready to get involved again, it will find me. It always has.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:44 AM
 
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I could come up with a bunch of excuses, but it comes down to one thing. I don't try hard enough to meet people.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:50 AM
 
Location: Iowa
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Because my ex scarred me to the point to where I do not trust anyone yet.

When that heals, and I know I won't be wasting time or hurting anyone, I will change it.
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Old 10-27-2008, 10:59 AM
 
Location: in purgurtory in London
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I can't find anyone that loves me as much as I love myself.
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Old 10-27-2008, 11:54 AM
 
Location: Arizona, The American Southwest
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Why are you single?
I have no idea. If you asked me to explain to you the intricate details of what each part of a jet engine does, and what every other part on the jetliner does, that would definitely be much easier to explain.
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