Why are you single? (woman, Chinese, therapy, attracted)
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I ask myself that question. I have been single for 10 months now and usually I would have a boyfriend right now but I dont. I havent found any guy that is worthy of my time. I would like to have a boyfriend, maybe some guy will come along when I least expect it.
How does one get a boyfriend? I've never had one let alone too many steady friends LOL......wth.
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Originally Posted by mariposabella
I ask myself that question. I have been single for 10 months now and usually I would have a boyfriend right now but I dont. I havent found any guy that is worthy of my time. I would like to have a boyfriend, maybe some guy will come along when I least expect it.
1) I have severely low self-esteem.
2) I can't trust someone to not hurt me or not leave me.
I'm 26 and have been single my entire life. I was abused as a child and have never really recovered. I'm seeing a therapist and we're making some headway but still nowhere near being healed. Oh and i'm gay too.
Therapists are so over hyped and are money leeches.
Being gay is hard because you have less men to choose from and the gay guys I've encountered are freakin petty and catty as you already probably know........
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Originally Posted by boywithstick
1) I have severely low self-esteem.
2) I can't trust someone to not hurt me or not leave me.
I'm 26 and have been single my entire life. I was abused as a child and have never really recovered. I'm seeing a therapist and we're making some headway but still nowhere near being healed. Oh and i'm gay too.
Therapists are so over hyped and are money leeches.
Being gay is hard because you have less men to choose from and gay guys are freakin petty and catty as you already probably know........
people can be petty & catty or very very sick, but it does not necessarily stem from being gay. all sorts of people hide behind "gay". therapists are for the sociopath what priests are to vampires.
ya man I'm just saying it's a gay stereotype for a reason because there are a lot of gays that are petty and catty and dang proud of it, they don't find it insulting at all if you say "Hey man you are petty and catty. That is pitiful. What is wrong with you. Show respect and concern." oh well.
good analogy with therapists to the priest...etc.
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Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948
people can be petty & catty or very very sick, but it does not necessarily stem from being gay. all sorts of people hide behind "gay". therapists are for the sociopath what priests are to vampires.
I'm single for many reasons, but lately I haven't asked myself "why" because I've been somewhat pleased with the circumstances, so no need to be all that critical.
But, since that was the question...the first thing that comes to mind is that the last person I was involved with left me drained. Now that he's out of my life and I don't have any new romances on the horizon, I feel good about the fact that I'm not all caught up in and feeling like I need to be concerned about someone else besides myself and my family members.
Also, I'm not straight, and I have one of those abnormally low sex drives (like asexual people, just not completely devoid of sexual desire) and so it's hard to find someone suited to me. The general disinterest in sex tends to be a turn-off to people, guys and girls (hahahaha...yeah, awful joke).
Plus, I'm still in that phase wherein I might wind up comparing the next person to the last guy, and that wouldn't be fair to anyone.
Ya man I totally get your drift about being sort of asexual but not 100% asexual.
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Originally Posted by buildings_and_bridges
I'm single for many reasons, but lately I haven't asked myself "why" because I've been somewhat pleased with the circumstances, so no need to be all that critical.
But, since that was the question...the first thing that comes to mind is that the last person I was involved with left me drained. Now that he's out of my life and I don't have any new romances on the horizon, I feel good about the fact that I'm not all caught up in and feeling like I need to be concerned about someone else besides myself and my family members.
Also, I'm not straight, and I have one of those abnormally low sex drives (like asexual people, just not completely devoid of sexual desire) and so it's hard to find someone suited to me. The general disinterest in sex tends to be a turn-off to people, guys and girls (hahahaha...yeah, awful joke).
Plus, I'm still in that phase wherein I might wind up comparing the next person to the last guy, and that wouldn't be fair to anyone.
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